Help-problem with coworker :/

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I understand you not wanting to be around her sick kid, she shouldn’t have brought her in unless she was going to keep her somewhat isolated at all. maybe it would have bedmate better to speak to your boss and have him ask her to take the daughter home or put her in the consult room. I’m sure it was no fun for the kid to be taken to with all day either if she is feeling sick. The mother sounds overly sensitive about her children and probably perceives everything as an attack or judgement. Hopefully she gets over herself soon.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

If you’re working in a doctor’s office, are you not exposed to coughing, sick people all day every day?  How was your exposure to her child different than any other day?

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Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sorry, but I have no advice and just want to say good luck.  Entitled people like that can’t be reasoned with.  It’s always gonna be about HER kids and how THEY are treated.  She probably coudln’t give 2 shits if her kid got you sick right before your wedding or anytime.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think R does sound overly sensitive and that she was blowing things out of proportion. If you’re worried about your job security, I think a gesture of kindness toward her kids could be a good starting point for healing wounds. Maybe offer to take her and her kids out for lunch? Or bring her daughter a get well soon card and a stuffed animal? Personally I hate kissing a** but if you really think you could lose your job over this it might be worth it.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I see nothing wrong in what you did or said. She needs to have backup arrangements for when her chid is sick.

I know that doctor’s offices are like a petri dish, but there are also immuno suppressed patients who should not be exposed to sick children. Our doctor’s office requires anyone coughing to wear a mask, which they give you, and which is changed every 20 minutes ,as the inexpensive masks offer no protection once they become damp.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

fascinated:  I was thinking this too, but then (depending on the kind of dr) maybe they aren’t sick people coming in, and most patients are not rummaging through your desk supplies, or coughing right in your face?

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Post # 11
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Bumble bee

  MilaBeth:  It being a dental practice does change things a bit.  She should have alternative arrangements available, but if the rest of the job is as cushy as you indicate, then you have to pick your battles.  Since you know she’s (too) protective/invested in any ‘negative’ about her children,  approaching her is probably not the way to go.  I’d probably approach the boss and say,”I’m afraid I really upset co-worker.  I probably stepped out of line and talked to her directly, rather than approaching you, but I asked her to take her sick child home/or confine her to the consult room.  I didn’t want to be exposed to illness just prior to my wedding, but it probably wasn’t my place to say something. (Even if you think it was).  I’m sorry I took this upon myself, and I’m sorry I upset her… She still seems a bit distant to me, but could we talk about when it’s appropriate for anyone …. her, me, or her child to come in if they’re sick.”   Hopefully the boss will help smooth things over.  (Or this will backfire big time and she’ll be even angrier that you went to the boss.) 

 

ETA:  Just saw someone else got fired for going to the DR.  Whether you’re right or not, I think I’d be making some sort of a mia culpa to the Dr. as an attempt at damage control.   

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Post # 12
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Bumble bee

lia22:  But they are signing in at the front desk,  handling other fomites (pencils, clipboards, insurance cards, credit cards) etc.  It is less of a concern in and dental office, but it’s not a non-existant one. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Why is your co-worker bringing her child into work? That’s really unprofessional, if you ask me. I understand that things happen and sometimes you have no other choice but to do so. To make it a daily thing…I just feel bad for her kid, having to sit in a confined area for so long. And she should be grateful that you’re around, babysitting her kid while she’s in the back working with the Dr. On a side note, I agree with what how you handled the situation. You confronted her about the situation, but you didn’t do so in a confrontational manner. You explained why you did what you did and apologized that her feelings got hurt. Honestly, there’s not much more that I would do if I were you. Time heals all!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Honestly, due to the past history, I don’t think the situation will change or get any better. I couldn’t work under those conditions. It would become a 2-person office pretty quickly. Babysitting and dodging extra germs should not be in your job descritption.

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