Post # 1
Okay so my future bride and I have set a date for an engagement party in February and I just got her ring in today do I wait until the engagement party to give her the Ring???
I want to propose to her and surprise her with the ring before the engagement party is it okay for her to wear her engagement ring before the engagement???
I’ve head it’s bad luck to wear the engagement ring before our actual engagement… But I thought giving her the ring was being engaged and the party was just the party Ihope I’m making some sense lol
Post # 3
An engagement party happens AFTER you are engaged (which is when she would start wearing the ring). So you are correct in thinking you give her the ring when you get engaged, and that the party is just a party that comes after. To be honest it seems kind of odd to plan an engagement party when you’re not engaged yet! It’s a party you have to celebrate after the proposal/engagement happens.
May I ask where you’re posting from? I know different countries have different norms and superstitions, so just curious if you’re outside the US.
Post # 4
Your absolutely right, posting from Detroit area, and cultural Norms have played a big role in it (both of our families are of Lebanese descent and were muslim so dealing with two sets of traditions and rules… mix that with me being a 4th generation American and shes a 2nd generation american and now we got three sets of rules/ ways of coping between)… In the Lebanese culture, once the kids of the family want to take the next step and get married the guys family goes over the girls family house as like the public announcement and formally asking for the girls hand in marriage. After that the Islamic wedding acts as the engagement, and than you have the wedding after that…(thats not the textbook Islamic way or the norm in the Arab culture but just the communities norms over the last 30+ years) More times than not there really isn’t the traditional proposal so my bride to be and I have been doing our best to keep traditions alive with mixing in the American culture we share and have grown up in
Total result is me being confused lol
Thanks for the help!!! You definitely cleared a lot up for me !
Post # 5
yeah, usually the couple gets engaged through the proposal (where the ring is usually given) and then will have a party later on just to celebrate with family and friends. the engagement is “official” after the proposal, or when the couple decides that it is. how ever you want to mix that with other traditions is up to you and your lady, though. good luck! 🙂
Post # 6
How did you plan an engagement party if you are not engaged? Normally in the US this is how it goes… first you ask her to marry you (with our without the ring) then you give her the ring or you shop together and get it for her. THEN you plan the engagement party. Unless you are following a cultural tradition, in which you need to find out from your family.
Good luck and congrats!