- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
Basically, I’m down to two venues and keep going back and forth. They have very different feels but each captures a different part of my personality and is unique.
a) rustic barn setting that overlooks the ocean- We would definitely go for the “rustic chic” look, and I’m excited about little things, like being able to have frisbees and lawn games outside. The ceremony is on a bluff with the ocean behind, so it is really gorgeous. It would be more work for our guests to get here, but they have all expressed excitement about turning the wedding into a minivacation. We’d probably turn the wedding into a weekend thing with a clambake etc the night before. The major downside is a strict capacity limit, so we would have to cut some people from our guest list. However, this place really feels like home to me, since we have been going there for so many years (since I was 3) and my fiancee proposed there. This setting would feel really intimate, cozy, casual, and sentimental.
b) science museum in my city – I also feel a connection to this place due to my career (I’m a scientist) and because I’ve lived in this city for so long. The ceremony would have water views in the background and is really pretty. The reception would be inside, with all of the cool exhibits around. It is a really fun theme to run with – little dinosaur figurines to hold the escort cards, beakers for the signature cocktail, etc. It definitely captures the quirky, nerdy side of our relationship. It would be much easier for guests to get to (since a lot of them live in my city), although hotels would be slightly more. There would be no capacity limit, so we could invite more people. This setting seems like the party would be a blast (esp since there would be a space ship above the dance floor), and I’m excited about the details. The big plus is also the capacity thing- there are a lot of friends on the “B” list who we could invite.
I’ve considered a lot of factors like price, the ability of my guests to get there, and so forth, but most of them have pluses and minuses (some guests would prefer the vacation spot for example, others don’t want a hassle). Ultimately, I think it comes down to the feel of the place. Depending on my mood, I switch which one I want, and if I decide on one, I immediately start to have regrets and think about the other. Has anyone else struggled with this? Any advice?