Post # 1
So It’s my FSIL Bach party tomorrow, AND my grandpas 70th Bday Party. I have to choose considering FSIL Bach party is an hour away from me and Grandpas party is just down the road. It was a random decision by my family to throw one, due to them driving back to FL on sunday from MN for an emergency.
I won’t be drinking at either, due to the fact of Hubby and I TTC.
What should I do? I feel bad not going to FSIL Bach Party, because came to mine. I attended 3 of her wedding showers already all in the midst of our own wedding things. It’s a bummer, because I have spent so much time with Hubby’s family things with our weddings being so close that I hardly see my own.
I am going with the Bday Party, but is that the right decision, considering she will be my SIL for life? HELP!!!
Post # 4
I think that you are making a fair decision. You have already been to 3 of her showers!! She should be able to understand that you have other engagements also.
Post # 5
Good choice! I would definitely go to my grandpa’s birthday party. Not to be morbid, but you never know, this may be the last one you have with him. I lost my grandpa a year and 8 months ago… I’d give anything to be able to have another birthday with him. But I can’t so I will continue to cherish the last birthday party we had with him. I think you are making the right choice. Just my thoughts…
Post # 6
Is there anyway you can go to the birthday party for one hour and then meet up with the girls after that?
If not, whatever you decide will be fine. People understand that you can’t be at everything.
Post # 7
I think you should spend the time with your grampa, and the rest of your family. As you said, you’ve been spending a lot of time with your husbands family, you’ve done 3 of her showers. That is a lot, so I can’t imagine (unless she is unreasonable) that she wouldn’t understand you missing out on this one. I’m sure it won’t be a big deal at all. Enjoy your family time 🙂
Post # 8
So I didn’t go to the Bach Party…now I have a SNARKY FSIL. YUCK.
I gave her her gift on Sunday when I went to pick my DH up from their house she didn’t even say thank you, she took it and walked away. I think I made the right decision not to go if that’s how she’s going to act. 🙂
Thanks Bees for your advice! I’m glad I took it and had a wonderful time and Grandpas party with family!!! Finally something I did for me!!!