Post # 1
My mother just spoke with one of my aunts today and the wedding came up. THE ISSUE: My aunt basically invited all of her kids, grandkids and great grandkids to our wedding! She said that they are renting vehicles and driving together. Don’t get me wrong I love my family and would like to invite everyone if we could but its just not possible. That branch of family alone is like 20-30 extra people easily that we could not invite due to budget limitations. We stuck to only inviting our aunts and uncles and their spouses and we have a few cousins in our bridal party but that’s it. We are using a website and traditional RSVP cards. Is there anything that I can put on the website to discourage guests from inviting extra people but not sound rude about it? My mother does plan on calling her back to advise her of it but I feel like this will be a recurring thing with family members who were invited.
Post # 2
BUMP. anyone with suggestions?
Post # 3
MrsBehnke2be: Generally speaking, it’s not polite to indicate who is not invited.
I have seen previous threads where a couple included a line on the website (not the invitations)
“We are sorry, but we are not able to accomodate extra guests.”
Most couples do end up having to phone some guests who add on other people to the rsvp card. If you have to do that, don’t make excuses, because there are always those people who will come up with a solution to every problem.
not enough room- “Not to worry, we’ll squeeze them in at our table”
no budget- “Not to worry, I’ll pay for her plate” or ” We’ll share the entree”
Keep it simple “We are sorry, but we are not able to accomodate extra guests”. Repeat as often as necessary.
Post # 4
Agree with Honey, dont give a reason, just be polite. I might say, sorry for any misunderstanding (although your invite was clear, this may help it go smoother).
Post # 5
If you are dealing with pushy guests, I think using the “not enough room” reason is pretty good. It’s 100% non negotiable in my eyes, because all you have to say is that the venue is at capacity. Here’s what I would say: “The venue is at capacity and there *literally* isn’t any more space for additional guests – they won’t allow any more people due to fire bylaws. If we go over capacity, the venue will fine us, so we can’t budge”. DONE 🙂
Post # 6
i just cant believe people do this omg 😮
Post # 7
I would not say venue will fine us, they may offer to pay. And if you say no room, they may say, well call us if you get regrets. I would just say sorry.
Post # 8
juanita.kelly.9: Kazza: Thanks for the advice ladies! 🙂
julies1949: I think I’ll end up doing exactly that on our website! Thanks so much!
purrrbaby: I can’t believe it either I was in shock when she told me!