HELP. Rehearsal dinner dilemma.

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think that’s usually called a Welcome Dinner 🙂  Maybe a BBQ or picnic at a park or something more casual.  If you have it outside you can have lawn games and other self-directed entertainment.

Post # 3
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


britty:  We rented out a hall at a local ski area and they “catered” with pizza ,pasta salad and a bar. It was super laidback and easy/fast/affordable.

Post # 4
4961 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

britty:  We are having our rehearsal the Thursday before our wedding also – because the Friday is July 4 and my venue is closed. We are having whatever bridal party members can make it come to the rehearsal thursday, but still having a big BBQ on July 4th at my dad’s house. Totally casual – I want ppl in jeans and shorts!

We just called it a “rehearsal dinner”. We too are inviting out of town guests, close family, and bridal party members. 

Post # 5
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

One thing to think about when doing something Thursday, Friday, and Saturday is your wedding party. Are they going to be taking multiple days off of work? Is there presence necesasry for Friday? Just something to think about, I am sure most people wouldn’t say anything, but would grumble in their head about this sort of set up.

I would keep the dinner Friday pretty casual if a lot of people are traveling. Something more open house style where people can come and go when they get settled in, and don’t feel like they have to be there a certain length of time.

Post # 6
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You do realize that OOT guests aren’t not required to attend the rehearsal dinner? Usually, the rehearsal dinner is for the bride and groom, their parents, and the bridal party with s/o. It’s just a way to thank everyone for attending the rehearsal. 

Our rehearsal is Thursday because our venue has weddings on Fridays. We prefer it this way so we can enjoy the dinner with just our families and bridal party without making it a second wedding (which it sounds like you are doing). That would be to stressful of an event right before the wedding for me. 

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