Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law are paying for our rehearsal dinner they are asking us to make it very inexpensive (about $500) which is fine by us. They just informed me they want all of our out of town guest to be there, which is about 30-60 guest.
My first question is it normal to invite all the Out of Town guest? Can I say I really dont want them there?
Help this is really causing drama!
Post # 3
We are having a rehearsal dinner with the bridal party + parents ONLY – – then we are opening it up to an Out of Town reception. There will be hors d’oeuvre trays passed around as well as wine, beer, and liquor for two hours. After the two hours liquor will be cash, beer and wine will still be included….
Are you able to do a wedding party + parent dinner ONLY then open it to an Out of Town reception and mingle?
Post # 4
I think the rule on this is somewhat flexible. I think ideally it’s a nice gesture to invite all guests that are coming from out of town to the rehearsal dinner. However, your wedding – like mine, has a lot of Out of Town guests, so it’s not really practical. It would cost a fortune to have all those people at the rehearsal dinner. I will just be inviting close family members from out of town.
Post # 5
I don’t think it is necessarily “normal” to invite all of your Out of Town guests. I think normal is mostly immediate family on both sides and the wedding party.
I know for us it was important to have the rehearsal dinner be for all invited family members, regardless of whether or not they were Out of Town. His family all lives nearby and sees each other a lot, but my family really only gets together for things like weddings, etc. We thought it would be nice to call it a “family” BBQ and have everyone get to meet each other before the wedding.
Post # 6
Ha! I was in the opposite situation, i wanted to spend as much time with the guests as possible, so we invited everyone and we are having casual pizza party with board games. esp battle of the sexes.
I would tell them you want an intimate dinner and that having it be smaller would keep the cost down. maybe you could invite all the oot guests to joing you for drinks after or something.
Post # 7
I think the “traditional” way to do it is to invite Out of Town guests. But I don’t think it’s necessarily the norm anymore. We’re inviting only the wedding party & parents & maybe grandparents. You can do it whatever which way you want. I mean, you don’t even HAVE to have one, so do what is easier for you. 60 people is 8.33/person, and 30 people is 16.66/person on a 500 dollar budget. Maybe you should ask what kinda place they had in mind with and without the Out of Town guests and go from there! Good luck!