Post # 1
We’re just finalizing the dreaded guest list. I designed out invitaion and I almost forgot to add a RSVP due date, whoops. Now we’re trying to figure it out, but we’re not sure. I looked it up and it says 3-4 weeks before the wedding, which wouldn’t be a problem but our wedding date is January 31, so that puts us X-mas/new years time which is busy for everyone! Ideally people would RSVP right away, but we have some procastinators in the family.
So for my question, would December 15th-ish be ok for an RSVP date? Then people can enjoy their holidays and not worry about RSVP-ing (that way we can also enjoy our holidays and not have to be tracking people down around Christmas/early in the new year)
Orrrr, should we make the date January 5th-ish and hope people don’t forget over the holidays?
Anyone have experience with this?
Thanks! Ps… we’re ordering the invites today! Also, people will be RSVP-ing via our online website, so they will not have to physically fill out or mail a card to us.
Post # 2
winterwoodlandbride15: Normally , the rsvp date is connected to the date required by your vendors, particularly caterers, for your final numbers. You need to set a date that gives you time to track down non-responders and still meet your deadline.
The people who are prompt at responding will be, no matter what method you use, and the others won’t.
Post # 3
winterwoodlandbride15: I set mine one week before the venue needed my numbers which ened up being 3 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 4
We’re not having a traditional wedding. The RSVP date is more for my organizing and sanity. We’re doing a catered app/dessert reception, but he seems to be pretty flexible with finalized numbers.
Wht I need to know is what date I should use. Is Dec. 15th too early?
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
winterwoodlandbride15: We are having a semi-destination with a lot of DIY so we have a very cushiony deadline (9 weeks). My cousin’s deadline was 4 months out!! December 15th is not too early at all, any later and I think holiday madness would set in and people would forget.
Post # 6
Dec 15th I think would be fine. OR even earlier. Any later and I think that your guests may forget to mail back the rsvp’s as the holiday time is very busy!!!!! And it works out perfect because the family members who procrastinated can be reminded in person when you see them for Christmas.
Post # 7
KoiKove: Did you find 3 weeks was long enough for you to organize everything? Food, alcohol, seating, venue layout? Or do you wish you had longer?
Post # 8
Pixienickie: SimplyEuphoric: Great!!! Thanks! Good idea about asking people at family events around the holidays! I forgot about that. Then we can casually mention it and not feel like we’re ‘tracking’ people down haha.
I feel like the more time I have the better. I get pretty stressed out and I would like to get as much done as soon as I can.
Post # 9
winterwoodlandbride15: Food and alcohol was being handled by the venue. They needed numbers 2 weeks before the event. So I gave myself a 1 week buffer to track down late RSVPers.
As for the seating chart, I had a vague idea of who would be sat together before all the rsvps came in (His family together, my family, this group of friends, that group of friends). I also created Escort Cards that I could easily switch around table #’s if I needed too.
So I had plain cream escort cards with a flower (color indicating food selection) that I attached separately. Then a “leaf” that indicated the table number. I made the flowers prior and printed a bunch of table # (on green cardstock, then used a decorative punch). Once the final RSVP’s came in, I figured out who would be a which table. Then printed out everyone on the plain escort cards. Then attached the flowers and table #’s. And yes, I did have to make a last minute adjustment when I seated my Mom’s friend at the wrong table.
Post # 10
winterwoodlandbride15: I only gave myself a week to track people down and it was not enough time. Still tracking down one person! Fortunately my venue is being kind about it since it’s just one person, but I recommend giving yourself at least two weeks before your final guest count is due!
Post # 11
winterwoodlandbride15: I’d like to point out, though, that human beings are notoriously awful at following RSVP instructions. If you set your RSVP deadline for 12/15, I feel that you will absolutely spend your holiday chasing people down for responses. Can you make it the first week in December and have a personal drop-dead date of 12/24 or something?
Post # 12
Due date is Dec. 14, we sent in our order! I think that’ll give me enough time 🙂