Help! RSVP due date

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

winterwoodlandbride15:  Normally , the rsvp date is connected to the date required by your vendors, particularly caterers, for your final numbers. You need to set a date that gives you time to track down non-responders and still meet your deadline.

The people who are prompt at responding will be, no matter what method you use, and the others won’t.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

winterwoodlandbride15:  I set mine one week before the venue needed my numbers which ened up being 3 weeks before the wedding.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

winterwoodlandbride15:  We are having a semi-destination with a lot of DIY so we have a very cushiony deadline (9 weeks). My cousin’s deadline was 4 months out!! December 15th is not too early at all, any later and I think holiday madness would set in and people would forget. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Dec 15th I think would be fine.  OR even earlier.  Any later and I think that your guests may forget to mail back the rsvp’s as the holiday time is very busy!!!!! And it works out perfect because the family members who procrastinated can be reminded in person when you see them for Christmas.  

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

winterwoodlandbride15:  Food and alcohol was being handled by the venue. They needed numbers 2 weeks before the event. So I gave myself a 1 week buffer to track down late RSVPers. 

As for the seating chart, I had a vague idea of who would be sat together before all the rsvps came in (His family together, my family, this group of friends, that group of friends). I also created Escort Cards that I could easily switch around table #’s if I needed too.

So I had plain cream escort cards with a flower (color indicating food selection) that I attached separately. Then a “leaf” that indicated the table number. I made the flowers prior and printed a bunch of table # (on green cardstock, then used a decorative punch). Once the final RSVP’s came in, I figured out who would be a which table. Then printed out everyone on the plain escort cards. Then attached the flowers and table #’s. And yes, I did have to make a last minute adjustment when I seated my Mom’s friend at the wrong table. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

winterwoodlandbride15:  I only gave myself a week to track people down and it was not enough time. Still tracking down one person! Fortunately my venue is being kind about it since it’s just one person, but I recommend giving yourself at least two weeks before your final guest count is due!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

winterwoodlandbride15:  I’d like to point out, though, that human beings are notoriously awful at following RSVP instructions. If you set your RSVP deadline for 12/15, I feel that you will absolutely spend your holiday chasing people down for responses. Can you make it the first week in December and have a personal drop-dead date of 12/24 or something?

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