Post # 1
Now, the jist of the situation is, due to money saving and whathaveyou, we’ve decided to hand deliver our invitations to save on postage! Also coupled with that I’m trying to think of a tactful way of RSVP’s. I really like the idea of having people call. Clarity and its always nice to talk to people, although I’ve heard its ‘rude’ to even suggest such a thing.
I worry about things being lost in the mail, people not bothering to respond and things of that nature. Also, how strict should the deadline be if it IS a phone call Rsvp, or just any Rsvp at all!?
Does anyone have a suggestions, comments or just any sort of advice to give a bride who is a bit stressed over a silly piece of paper? Thank you in advance (And I’m sorry if I dont get to respond to all of you!)
Post # 3
Very traditional etiquette says that guests are supposed to respond, by mail, on their own stationery with their own stamps.
That’s kind of old etiquette and since the custom has been to include the RSVP card for a while, people may not KNOW that’s the traditional etiquette and get confused. Or they may assume they don’t have to RSVP! So I think that these days, you need some sort of system.
I don’t really see the reason why calling would be rude, except that I suppose that you might be forcing guests to have a conversation about coming/not coming and that could lead to them feeling compelled to explain why they can’t come or something. If you don’t want to do RSVP cards, then your next best bet is to ask for guests to email you back–most people actually like this option. The exception would be your non-tech-savvy guests, usually grandmothers and that kind of thing. In that event, you might want to offer your phone number to call as well OR, if you can figure out who would be unlikely to do email, just pay for the RSVPs for those select few.
Post # 4
I have had lots of RSVP dilemma’s from only providing phone number and an email address on my original invites. I HIGHLY recommend a wedding website (http://www.mywedding.com is very good) AND and RSVP cards, to cover all your bases. Set up your website and put the address on your invites and you can also add a simple peice of paper for RSVP’s. I bought some card & envelopes from the dollar shop, self addressed the envelope (minus the stamp) and pasted a peice of paper into the card with the following
Please go to our wedding website and follow the RSVP link. There you will find all of our wedding plans, maps and eventually our wedding photos
Alternatively, please return the response card by post to
28 bartholemew st, springfield LUV , 0607
Dinner is from 6pm at Aesops Greek Restaurant in Sydney with pre-drinks at the botanic gardens from 4pm. Bad weather pre-drinks will be at Quay Bar on Alfred Street, Circular Quay. Please call Janice on the day on ******* for location confirmation. Special dietary requirements can be communicated with your waiter on the night. Unfortunately, if we do not receive an RSVP before we leave Australia on 16 June, you will not be catered for at our reception on 21 July. We appreciate if you can please let us know if you are unable to attend
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