Post # 1
Um, my mom and my FMIL seemed to think we should be legally married already. I’m confused, and slightly panicking.
I’m getting married in a catholic church on 10/9/10.
FI and I are planning to go to city hall this Friday, and get our marriage license. I then thought we brought that to the church, the priests signs, and then we’re married.
Am I missing something? Do we actually have to be legally married before the wedding? What do I have to do? I’m confused!?
Post # 3
You are right! You go pick up the license (check with your state to see what the waiting period is), get married, and sign it on your wedding day.
Post # 4
Nope you have it correct. Go get your marriage license at city hall. You will take that paper with you to your church and after the ceremony you, your husband, the priest, and your two witnesses will sign it. Your priest will then mail the license back in and you will receive your offical marriage certificate in the mail a couple of weeks later!
Post # 5
Thanks Trugem – so when I go this Friday, we just bring our birth certificates, and that’s it right? We don’t need witnesses or anything?
Post # 6
You don’t need any witnesses to get the license.
Post # 7
WHEW! Thanks everyone. I was concerned because my mom mentinoed it to me a few days ago, and now I heard my FMIL ask my FI about it..and said we had to be married already!?
Post # 8
Your officiant should be the one to legally certify your marriage and return the marriage license to the county where you are getting married. Don’t worry!
PS – You might need your SS cards to get your marriage license, different counties have different rules on what you need.
Post # 9
The priest will be legally marrying you, no need to panic! You don’t need witnesses to get your license (just whatever the county you are getting your license in requires – it varies!). We also were able to prepay/preorder our marriage certificate copies, which was nice, at the time we got our license (but that was in CA). Just double check the requirements of the county you are going to, it’ll make you feel better 🙂
Post # 10
It’s like this in some European countries, you have to have a civil ceremony before you can have a church ceremony, and they each serve a different purpose (legal vs. religious). But in North America, priests are ordained to perform the legal portion of the marriage while doing the religious part.