(Closed) HELP! Should I change my setting?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@winnie47:  Change it while it’s still early. I don’t get why he’d pick it, either!

Congrats on your engagement, by the way!

Post # 4
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think you should keep your current setting to wear on your other hand – you can put a gemstone in it – and get the Verragio you had already ordered and decided on with your Fiance. Why your Future Father-In-Law chose a setting for you is beyond me. Your FI’s father should by all means understand your decision. I wouldn’t want to look down at my engagement ring every day and think to myself “my husband’s father chose this”. JMO

Post # 5
8473 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I absolutely love that ring! It’s gorgeous! 

Post # 6
2269 posts
Buzzing bee

While I do think the ring you have pictured is gorgeous, if it’s not the one you love, then you should change it.

If you and your Fiance had already picked out a setting you love, then you should use that one. I would sit down with your Fiance and tell him why you prefer the setting you both chose over the one you are currently wearing – I couldn’t imagine my FI-to-be making me wear a ring that is not the one we chose/loved.

Perhaps he feels it would be an insult to his father for you to change the setting from one he chose…just throwing ideas out there. If this is one of the reasons, you could always buy a coloured stone to place in the setting and wear it as a RHR.

Post # 8
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

I think wearing FFIL’s setting as a RHR with a different stone, as I think a PP suggested, could be a good compromise.

Post # 9
1139 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I also agree with a PP- see if you can keep that one and put a different gemstone in it.  Then explain how the huge one isn’t practical for every day use.

Post # 10
624 posts
Busy bee

I love that ring and it looks amazing on your finger!! It also balances out your ginormous watch!!

Post # 11
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

First off welcome to the hive and congrats on your engagement. I think you should go with what your heart tells you. If you love one ring over the other then go with that one. Or keep both and make one into a right hand ring….the more rings the better lol

Post # 13
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I get what you’re saying, but you’re center stone looks 2+ carats which balances with the large setting. I think it looks great. You’d have to think about whether you want a wedding band or of you would wear the band on the other hand.

Post # 14
147 posts
Blushing bee

i actually love it…so i’d say keep it! =)

but then again, how will your wedding band be? will it make it all a tad too much once you wear it with your weddiing band?

Post # 15
14337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Whats the verragio you got look like?

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