Post # 1
i really didn’t and don’t want to but i need some imput.
we’re having 114 guests, most of which are family. about 25 ppl are friends. i really feel like “these are adults, they’ll find a chair and sit in it” but now i’m wondering if that is really best. i want to keep things low key and i really don’t want ANOTHER thing on my to do list. i get married in 11 days snd STILL have lots to do.
i’m reading, here, that things have not always turned out well without a seating plan, but i also don’t have the time, supplies, or energy to figure out who should sit with whom.
what is the criteria for such a thing? should i just leave it as is or do a seating plan of some sort?
ETA: there will proably be JUST enough seats for our guest with only a few extra seats. no one will be without a seat but i wonder if when we go in for dinner, people will be looking for an empty seat and have trouble identifying a table with one.
Post # 3
If you are worried about seating I would suck it up and create a seating chart. If not you run the risk of couples/groups being split up because there are only scattered seats left.
Post # 4
@OffensiveKitten: true. that’s one of my new concerns. i don’t even know how to go about this task though. it would be nice if our families mixed and mingled but i don’t know if that should be forced on them for dinner.
Post # 5
I just talked about this on a diff thread, but with that many people, it will be CHAOS without a seating chart. I’ve seen it with my own eyes. Make one, trust me. There will be so much less stress on the day of.
Post # 6
Based on your timeline, you might want to just say f it…
I’m having one because I’ve been to weddings without and I don’t like it. My best friend didn’t have a seating chart at hers but had three tables reserved for the bridal party, their plus ones, and her immediate family. Random people sat at those tables. That sort of thing just annoys me to no end.
I’m going to assign tables for the guests. They can decide who sits in which seat, but I’m at least controlling which table they are at. I’m going to buy a large canvas at Michael’s with a 40% off coupon and paint it with chalkboard paint. Once all the RSVPs are in and I can start assigning tables and write it out on the chalkboard. 🙂
Post # 7
@OffensiveKitten: +1. I made a seating chart with place cards for our 25 guests.
Post # 8
@ThisDeluxeLife: It’s only for an hour or so and then everyone is up and mingling and dancing (I assume?). Plus it’s a wedding and your families are there for you! Don’t worry so much about what they *might* think. Just do what works best for you guys.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I wasnt going to deal the seating chart thing for the same reason as you but then when I really thought about it, knowing my family it is going to be harder not to do one.
I see family members coming in later than eveyone else and not being able to find a seat together and everyone else reluctant to move. I see just a lot of fussing and complaining without it. I see mothers fathers etc etc making sure they get the table nearest the bride and groom
blah … its just easier to do one
Post # 10
@ThisDeluxeLife: I had the same concerns as you, so I compromised on the seating chart. I had three groups of tables: family of bride, family of groom, and friends (instead of table numbers, I had initials, which was also the “theme” of our wedding). When people trickled in, they didn’t have to worry about sitting with strangers, and they were less tempted to pull chairs up to other tables because they could choose who they sat with.
Post # 11
@ThisDeluxeLife: I am doing it, because I would hate to go to a wedding, and try to find a seat for my fiance and I. If you only have enough chairs for guests, chances are someone will be split from their party.
Post # 12
Just assign tables (not seats), it won’t take as much time as you think and it will be one less thing to worry about.
Post # 13
thank you, EVERYONE, for your input. this is really very very helpful. until i wrote out the question, i really hadn’t even considered parties getting split which would be bad. i don’t know how i’m going to do it though.
is it traditional to segregate families and friends, do people try to mix so that their families get to meet (we have NOT had a lot of opportunities for our families to meet) or does none of this matter?
i think i need to start reading some seating chart threads — another to do. yay. not.
Post # 14
Hey we’re date twins! omg I can’t believe it’s actually happening and so soon!
“people will pull chairs from everywhere to sit with larger groups”
I see this all the time at events and conference formal nights. I also know for a fact that my friends will do this unless they’re assigned a table because I’ve seen them do it before! It is chaotic. I haven’t assigned seating, but I did assign tables. We’re doing a plated dinner with meal choices so I’ve colour coded everyone’s escort cards which are tied to their favours. They’ll pick them up on the way into the hall and hopefully that works out!
Post # 15
@Summer_Rose: hi date twin! that’s good advice, as well. there is no real need for me to assign specific seats since they’ll be placing their dinner order at the table.
Post # 16
@ThisDeluxeLife: You don’t have to separate family and friends. When we did our seating chart if one of my friends knew someone from my family or I thought they would get along they went at the same table.