- 3 years ago
Hi wedding bees,
I really hope you can help me!!! I hired a hair & makeup stylist that is an acquaintance from college a few years ago. She said that since I had such a large wedding party, she would need to hire an assistant and they would “tag-team” the whole process. I agreed that her plan seemed smart. A couple of months ago, her assistant emailed me to say that she’d be dropping out and wouldn’t be able to help. I waited for 4-5 weeks to hear from my vendor about what her backup plan would be, and she never contacted me. I finally emailed her and asked if she’d been working on finding someone, and she basically said “no, but do you have any ideas?” which I thought was sort of unprofessional – isn’t she as the vendor supposed to provide me with a solution, or at least options? Luckily, I knew someone else who did makeup, and asked if it would be ok for this new vendor that I knew to work alongside her. The original stylist was NOT happy with this solution – turns out, she’d wanted to do makeup and not hair (though she hadn’t really communicated this to me), because only 5 of the girls want their hair done but all 7 want makeup. Though she didn’t say as much to me, it seems like she felt like she was being “cheated” by being asked to do the hair, because the cost would be about $160 less.
I asked if she was ok with this solution (BEFORE officially hiring the new vendor!), and she didn’t respond to me for another 2-3 weeks, so I sent one final email simply stating that I needed to hear from her – that we’d love to have her on the team, and I’d be really happy with her doing hair, but that I’d understand if she no longer wanted to participate – I just needed to know one way or the other so that we could continue with our plans. She finally replied that she would do it, but that she was “really busy” and wouldn’t be able to send me any pricing/do any work with me until after a certain date.
I heard back from her 10 days later, and her pricing seems fine, but I just have a really nasty feeling about the whole thing. How do I know that I can count on her? Do I really want to be stressed out/worried sick over a vendor with a bad attitude on our big day/the time leading up to our day?? I guess what stresses me out the most (aside from not wanting to be worried about whether or not she’ll really be there/be pleasant to work with) is that she knows so many of my friends. I don’t want my friends to think I’m horrible for firing their friend, but I also want to feel secure and happy with my choice, and right now I just feel anxious/totally insecure about the whole thing. What do I do???