(Closed) Help! Should I pay for the Bridesmaid dresses!!!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Could you discretely help with the OOT BM dresses?  Maybe not pay all, but just some of the cost?  Also, check out Pearl’s Place — you can purchase mnay of the styles available in salons for much cheaper!  Or, maybe see if you could get a bulk purchase discount?  (My girls saved ~ $50 each by purchasing from the shop where I got my gown.)

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

I agree with Miss Bruschetta. Discreetly helping could work. Sort of subsidizing it under the table. Or you could subsidize all of them for your girls? Just a thought.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I struggled with this as well. I eventually found dresses for $40 for my girls, and they each paid for their own. But if I had chosen a more expensive gown, I would have offered to pay a percentage of the cost or offer to cover the alterations. I also said they could wear their own shoes.

I totally understand having friends in all types of situations! It can be difficult to balance!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If the dresses have already been purchased, I would definitely reimburse the two OOT BMs if you can afford it (that’s very nice of you!). I’ve heard of brides paying for certain dresses in wedding parties and not others, and they’ve just been very discreet about it. My friend was recently in a wedding, and she felt horrible because she couldn’t afford to get her hair/make-up done, but all the other girls could. She approached the bride about it, and the bride was happy to cover the charges, but asked the girl not tell anyone else. When it came time to pay up at the salon, the bride discreetly paid for the girl at the register in addition to her own hair/make-up and no one was the wiser.

Not everyone’s situation is the same, and therefore, they all shouldn’t be treated the same, right? 🙂 Even if the other girls found out, I don’t think they could hold it against you! If you felt really horrible about it, host a lunch for the in-town girls only and pay for their food/drinks!

Post # 8
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Busy bee

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