Post # 1
Ok hive here is the problem at hand- I am the Maid/Matron of Honor for a bride with a shoe string budget. (By shoe string I mean 2000 dollars for a 150+ guests.) There will be a banquet dinner at the reception so basically the budget is blown on just the food. Since family and friends are aware of their financial struggles there are several people chipping in and purchasing certain things (IE “I’ll pay the officiant.” “I will pay the DJ.”)I am already $500 into the wedding and I haven’t gotten to the shower or anything to do with the wedding weekend.
In planning the shower I estimated around 30 people. A decent sized shower I thought. However, I just got word from the bride that she wants to invite 70+. The location (which has been booked for months) can’t accomadate that number nor can my wallet.
How do I tell the bride no? The ways I have tried previously haven’t sunk in… I’m starting to get frustrated.
Post # 3
That does not sound like fun. Honestly, I’d remind the bride that you’re already spending a significant amount of money on this wedding, at that your budget is capped at 30 people for the shower. You might add that you understand if she’d like to decline the shower altogether. You’re completey in the right here. The bride doesn’t get to dictate the guest list size for parties hosted by others.
Post # 4
Tell her that you just can’t afford it.
70 people is a LOT!!
Post # 5
Just tell her “I’m sorry, I am only comfortable hosting a shower with up to 30 guests, as originally planned.” 70 people is a very high guest list for a bridal shower.
Post # 6
For someone who is on a very tight budget herself she should understand that you are keeping your finances in mind. Are there other BM’s who can help out as well?
I would let her know that you would love to accomodate her request, but it just simply isn’t possible. Maybe even suggest another venue, say someone’s home and people can bring food to help offset the cost? This way she can invite more people, and you don’t have to worry about a head count per person?
Just some thoughts but good luck!
Post # 7
This bride and her Fiance need a reality check. They are already planning a wedding they can’t afford.
I would tell her that my budget does not allow for 70 guests, If she wants to invte more than 30, she will have to subsidize the expenses.
Post # 8
Tell her if she wants to invite 70p, she needs to find a new venue, two find a way to pay for it. She being ridiculous. Considering how many people are pitching in to pay for her wedding, you would think she would be a bit more understanding.