Post # 1
Hey ladies. I’ve been a lurker on this site for a year or so now, as of 7/8/2016 I became a Bee. SO here is the stress, not even a week that we’re engaged and both our mothers have opinions on the wedding, babies and what happens next. Everyone is shocked i dont have a date yet. How do you deal with the presure of engament? How did you handle the questions and assumtions that come your way.
Post # 2
kinkycurlyme : Congrats on the engagement! I just would tell people who are pressuring you for details and dates “We aren’t in any rush! We are enjoying the feel of being newly engaged! We will sit down and figure out wedding details in a few weeks.”
Post # 3
Congrats on your engagement! I’ve been engaged almost 8 weeks now, and the first 2 weeks were the most stressful (so far). Everyone had a lot of excitement and opinions, and it was so overwhelming dealing with all of the questions and assumptions. After several nights of crying to my FI, we both kindly asked our parents to step back and give us some breathing room to figure things out. Have you tried talking to your respective parents and explaining that this is all very new and you need a few weeks to sort out your plans and ideas? As soon as I told my mom that she was making it harder on me, she backed off, and she’s been great ever since.
Keep in mind your parents have probably been looking forward to this for a long, long time, so they’re giddy with excitement and ready to jump into the planning.
Post # 4
kinkycurlyme : hide until everything is planned and booked and don’t accept money from anyone for the wedding. I’m paying myself I’m the bride I want to elope us two alone and I do what I want. We announced our engagement after everything was booked travel and photographer.
Post # 5
Thank you ladies for letting me know I’m not alone. I could try talking to my family first and see how that goes.
we would like to wait at least a year and a half and have a fall wedding but those two answers just dont seem to be enough
Post # 6
I definitely felt overwhelmed by friends and family at the Hop because everyone was so excited and kept asking me questions about things I hadn’t thought of yet.
Once decisions got made, that settled down and it’s definitely not too much now.