- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Ok so here is the deal. I came from my country to study over here in the US. I don’t want to say where I am from cause I don’t want that much info given out, it is a dead give away. I met FI in college 8 1/2 years ago. we became romantically involved about 7 years ago, it’ll be eight years this coming november.
We started talking about marriage about a year into the relationship.and got unofficially engaged a year after that. We then became officially engaged in 2008. We set a date in september of 2010. Well, i never got a ring and we decided to wait until I graduated college. So I graduated a year and 5 months ago. I started planing about 6 motnsh before graduating and really started to plan things about a year ago. FI did not want to set a date yet because of some health issues with some family members.
Anywho, we set the date 1 month ago and put down deposits for venue, flowers, rentals etc.
Two weeks ago we had our tasting, three days ago I met with the wedding coordinator. Still no ring… I got use to going through this stuff wihtout a ring and it started to not feel like such a big deal, except when people would ask to see it.
I do not have a lot of friends or family in the us to I planned on inviting about 20 people, while FI has a huge family and said he could limit it to 60 if he had to wihtout offending anybody. (remember I wanted a small wedding, I was thinkning about 30 people, or even a courthouse wedding)
Here is where it becomes odd i guess for a lot of people. His mother was supposed to send out the invitations I made. I have not recieved any RSVP’s from his side of the family, and I cannot contact his mom about it because I do not have her number, she lives across the country, and I have never met her.
Yes, I have never met ANY of his family or friends, except for one friend about 5 years ago or so. Can’t even remember when it was only where it was.
Oh yeah, FI makes good money and he owns two houses, some busniess, etc. but I am living in a rental that he pays for (he pays for all of my expenses, school, living, etc) The lease is up in two weeks and I am supposed ot find something new but FI has good credit but has tax debt before and it still shows when you run credit, I am not from here so I have NO credit. We got leases before form showing bank statements, but people are getting tougher and bankstatements arent good enough anymore. FI syas he is trying to get a hold of his work contract to show his income but I guess his work is slow.. or he’s pulling my leg.
This stuff does not bother me on a day to day basis… but with the wedding approaching I just can’t help but think about it more and more.