Post # 1
Nothing what I expected it to be. And to be honest I do not like it.
Please no judgement.
Here’s a back story:
we’ve been engaged for 2 years wihtout a ring, We’re getting married in less than 30 days. My FI wanted to surprise me with a ring that he picked out and it took him forever to pick it out and finally give it to me. I had told him specifically what I wanted and more importantly what I did not want. The list is simple:Any cut diamond, don’t really care about color,clarity etc. as long as it is decent. I like rosegold and I want a ring with a band that can fit wihtout having ot be bent or in a weird shape, I really do not like those cause I want to be able to wear my band by itself. I like halo’s but they only the ones that are a rounded square shape. What I told him was most important is that I wanted it to be simple and fit together with a wedding band.
I feel like he did not listen at all.
edit* He’s had four years to get the “right” ring
and yes I am thinkning about calling off the wedding… we have no guests coming so whats the point? All i wanted in the first place was a courthouse wedding and a simple ring.
Post # 3
I think it’s absolutely gorgeous, but I can understand if its not what you expected. I would give it a few days though. To think after awhile of staring at that beauty, your mind will change!
Post # 4
If you wanted something so specific, why didn’t you just pick it out?
Post # 5
@oneofthesethings: i did.. he didnt listen. he wanted to do it himself. This has everything I told him I did NOT want. it has too much going on and a square halo with notched corners..
I asked him aout the wedding band and he said dont worry it is bent so it fits with the ring!! I was just in shock…
Post # 6
@littlelu: you seem to very specific about what you didn’t want..men don’t work like that. You should have just told him specifically what you wanted.
Post # 7
@blingbling: ha ha i tried that too… just wanted to be super safe… It has been about 4 years in the making this ring so he knew exactly what I wanted… he just wanted to buy this one instead.
Post # 8
that looks great! but is there any way you could return it or exchange it?
Post # 10
@lilsweetie: i honestly do not know… but he is so happy with his purchase I don’t know how to break it to him. I told him its a beautiful ring but not for me and he went crazy.
Post # 11
@blingbling: I even emailed and texted him this photo and told him where to buy it and what brand. I also sent pictures of side profiles and asked him a million times if he had made sure that the ring he got me was high enough to fit a band underneath, we also went ring shopping together :
Post # 12
Maybe you will learn to love it.
I would hate to hurt my SO’s feelings on a material thing. Yeah I would be disappointed
Post # 13
ETA: I read the post wrote and posted an answer and realized it didnt apply sorry 🙁 But it really is a gorgeous ring sweety
Post # 14
From the picture, it looks as if he did listen to what you told him. The ring appears to be rose gold, and the halo is a rounded square. The fact that many rings with halos will require custom wedding bands or gaps between the e-rings and wedding bands may not have been something that would even have occurred to him if he were just trying to meet your other qualifications.
I’m sorry you are disappointed in the ring, and I’m not suggesting that you can’t try to exchange or change it. However, I think you should give your FI credit for having listened to you, because it appears that he did try to get you much of what you told him you wanted.
Post # 15
@minipenguin: yeah, he had a long list though. and i’ve been waiting about 4 years for this ring. what i think it is is that the diamond does not fit in the setting. the setting is made for a round diamond. I told him I wanted pave cause I do not like the look of anyother style. honestly I am thinking of just wearing my promise ring that I have had for 6 years…. it is way smaller but atleast I love it.
Post # 16
I think that the ring he gave you felt right to him when he saw it. The picture you attached/ emailed him wasnt in rose gold but you mentioned to him you like rose gold. Maybe he was confused to the specifics but He tried at least. Sleep on it and decide later how to handle.