Post # 1
I’m a traditional bride who always dreamt of getting married in a church right in Philly, but after dealing with lots of family drama in the beginning of the wedding process, decided to do a DW on an island in Thailand. FI and I initially did not want to see each other before the ceremony because we thought the moment we see each other for the first time as I walk down the aisle in my white dress would be the most priceless moment of the whole day…but now, we’re rethinking this whole thing. We were given the option to do a traditional Thai ceremony at 10 in the morning of the wedding day (our beach ceremony starts at 4pm), and we thought that was a really neat thing to experience and agreed to it…Now, we’re worried we won’t have enough time for pictures and whatnot after the beach ceremony that ends around 5. Perhaps we should do a first look after all?
Also, we were hoping to not do cocktail hour because we’re already spending so much on transportation for the guests, the welcome dinner and the actual wedding reception and open bar. Should we go ahead and do the first look so we don’t need time for pictures after the ceremony and move immediately into reception? Or is that silly? Is anyone else doing something for their guests other than cocktail hour so the couple can have their portraits and other pictures done after the ceremony but the guests are not left bored? Is it necessary to have cocktail hour when we only have 40 guests and we want them to be in our pictures? I’m freaking out the closer it gets to the wedding!
Post # 3
We did not do a “First look” and we had a cocktail hour. We did do individual pictures before the ceremony – I went out with my bridesmaids, mother, father, aunt, and did those pictures. Then went back to the suite while husband did his. then he saw me the first time walking down the aisle, and then we did all the wedding party and whole family pics, and our pics during cocktail hour. You could do a cocktail hour with just coffee/water/soda and cheese/crackers, and not have alcohol during it, then the open bar starts during the reception. Just need to give your guests something to do and some type of refreshment during the cocktail hour.
Post # 4
@WYAtocha: We did a first look and the most amazing, priceless moment of the day was laughing and crying as we said our vows together! The first look was fun and it calmed our nerves to be together before the ceremony. We liked being able to join our guests right away after the ceremony and start the celebration.
Post # 5
If you guys are seeing each other at 10am anyways can you just do pictures after that (before the 4pm ceremony)?
Post # 6
There’s something so sweet and significant about seeing him and him seeing you when you walk down the aisle. If you can, hold off until the ceremony. Good luck!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I have yet to see a Bee who did a first look (self included) and regretted it. Sounds like your set up is perfect for it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
Our first look was probably my favorite part of the day, and the look on my husband’s face is the best.
Post # 9
@antisocialite: @kenziemt: @ButterflyBride5: @rebwana: @thejucheidea: Thank you, ladies! Sorry I abandoned my own thread and haven’t gotten on the Bee since I started this thread! Everything has been crazy and so much has been going on in my life (all non-wedding related), so we haven’t even had the chance to discuss further about the first look and everything.
@MrsBeck: I’ll be wearing a red dress for the Thai ceremony and my white gown, veil and everything at the beach ceremony since initially, we were dead set on him not seeing me in my white dress till the beach ceremony…but now, we’re worried about having no time for pictures and then, having to worry about cocktail hour when we’re already paying a fortune for alcohol at the reception itself… hence, the dilemma…:(