- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Hi everyone, (sorry for the length).
The wedding is right around the corner! We have truly done well budgeting for everything, except 1 minor detail on my end — a $800 expense that I didnt budget for… In any case, I feel so awkward and “cheap”, but not sure why it is. Maybe I set high expectations on what to do for the bridesmaids and the guys….
My fiance and I bought all the groomsmen’s suits and bridesmaids dresses because we have a destination wedding and felt it was the least we could do. We are providing transportation for the day of the wedding for everyone out of town — everyone. I bought the girls a spa wrap towel for the wedding day, as another token of my appreciation for them standing with us on the big day.
B/c I screwed up on the budget, I was unable to cover the makeup artists costs up front. 🙁 I feel like an a-hole. I had to email the girls 2 weeks ago, on hands and knees, shy as all heck and embarrassed, asking if they can please send me a check for the cost of the makeup. I got 3 of 5. I had to follow up with 2 today and I got a response saying they hoped I wouldnt think that they wouldnt pay me.
🙁 OMG, it stabbed me in the heart. It wasn’t that at all. My contract stated that I owe the artist the final count by tomorrow… so, if I have 6 bridesmaids, that is about $600. I just don’t have that $$ floating in my savings. In 2 paychecks, I can pay off the bus transportation and in the 3rd and final paycheck, I can pay for the flowers (im down to cents).
I am sure the artist would be lenient on the payment time, but I just can’t swing the bill now or until the wedding day and I want it off my checklist of things I owe.
See, I am responsible for paying for the makeup… he expects a payment from me, not each of the girls. I just couldn’t afford to carry that expense right now or ever — at all. I mean, I have budgeted down to every paycheck until the wedding, to make sure we have things covered.
I feel guilty though… truly horrible. I was so uncomfortable asking for that, and when I got that response from the girls, I felt like crap. Here, we pay for other things but I can’t swing this freaking bill. Why on earth do I feel like this. (Maybe it is the wedding stress of the final count down)
Help… Was I wrong to ask for them to help me pay sooner than the wedding day? Gosh, I hope more say no, than yes :)))