Post # 1
Hey dear bees,
all info below are personal feeling. I don’t want to offend anyone. Sorry first if I did.
Before I get on this board, I set my heart on diamond since I was 15. My BF are so generous and we decided a purchase a 2 ct pricess cut diamond after looking for 5 month (we are very detail oriented people and I think we got a great deal from B&M store). We decided the diamond pretty much on day one, the rest of 5 month are negociation of price. It’s still returnable.
Now I am not so sure for a couple of reaons.
1. Diamond price is artifically inflated by monopoly. controled supply means increase price (I am from Economic major).
2.Diamond is forever is a marketing strategy.
3. We are not rich people. there is no family money. We both have high-paid high pressure job and we are still in our 20s, saving for a house is more important than a diamond ring. He saved one year to buy me the diamond I want.
4.Blood diamond. I don’t want to wear something if I know someone might lose their life for it.
Therefore, my heart are torned! The logical side of my brain yell at me “this is stupid! don’t fall into marketig crap, this is your major, you know better”. The emotional side of my brain yell ” it’s what you ever wanted since you were 15!”
IF I don’t keep the dimand, then what? I am looking into sapphires (love blue, my favourite color), Moissy, Asha. Then there are more problems, I am not a big fun of lab-created stone as my enagement ring (I will buy them in a heart beat but not for engagement ring, no offence for people who love them, they are so pretty and shiny). For sapphires, US price for sapphires are sooooo over-priced. I am from Asia and you can buy a handful AAAA quality sapphires over there with the price of one sapphires here. sapphires there are sold by kilogrames.
What should I do ????
Post # 3
@fiona8718: If the diamond is what you’ve wanted all this time and your FI wants to give it to you after a year of saving, my vote is to keep it! You both are in high paying jobs, the house will come.
Post # 4
If I’m looking at my diamond ring wondering how many children died for it, something is wrong. Choose your ring because you want it. Keep the diamond and be happy he saved up for a beautiful ring.
Post # 5
@Jen-in-GA: Thanks for the support. i really love love love the diamond we got, but I feel stupid and guilty the same time!
Post # 6
I googled how to get sapphires from Asia, and came across the site SJjewelry.com. They’re based in Thailand, so you might want to contact them about getting a sapphire. They don’t list any of their prices online, but it’s worth a shot to e-mail them. Good luck!
Post # 7
@Ellyson: Thanks for your info. We went for vacation in Thailand and Cambodia last year, the sapphaires there are unbelievely low-priced, compare to US price.
Post # 8
@MissFemmeFatale: I think the engagement ring titled me to be “unreasonable”. Maybe this time i shouldn’t use my logic side of my brain!
Post # 9
@fiona8718: Keep your gorgeous diamond. You will be wearing it for a lifetime. Your boyfriend worked hard to get it for you. Don’t feel silly or guilty. There is something special about a billion year old honest to goodness from the earth diamond.. Each one unique, kind of like us!
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Polar Diamond 🙂
Or as others have suggested an ethically sourced white sapphire. Remember diamonds arent the only blood trade so are settings, and metal. I bought from a jewelery custom house in the states who sources ethically. My center stone is a sapphire, my metal is recycled, and my diamonds ethical. I feel good about this little beauty.
Post # 11
@fiona8718: If I went with logic, I would have a twist tie on my finger.
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Post # 13
#1 is not that accurate (look into it more if you really are that interested in economics).
Regardless, the price for a good diamond is astronomical, especially for the size you want.
I suggest you look into natural colored gemstones in this size instead. I don’t know what your budget is, but there is such a wide variety and some much more rare than others (common ones are more affordable but just as beautiful) I’m sure there is one that will fit your budget.
Consider sapphires, topaz, quartzes, beryls, spinels, tourmalines… and so many more.
Remember, many of these are treated in all sorts of ways, which you may not like. Treatments should make them much cheaper, but know what you’re getting. Know if they don’t state whether it’s treated, it probably is. Unscrupulous sellers sometimes outright lie. You can get the gem tested at an accedited lab, however. Know treatments you would accept and those you wouldnt. For example, some people will not tolerate lead-filling or nuclear irradiation, but they will accept heat treatment.
It’s an exciting world, that of colored gems! Jump in and enjoy!
Post # 14
I would keep it. You want it really, so just do some different math… over 60 years say. How much would it be a year? a month? a day? Cheap huh?!?!?! LOL, save for it in reverse. You have already bought it, so I would set it on the cheaper side of things, in a solitaire maybe and love it! Save more money and get a plain wedding band as well. You can always upgrade to a blingier band or a fancier setting later if you desire.
Post # 15
@jcent: haha, remember my post before about a vintage look multi-color diamond band. Unfortunately I have expensive taste. But I agree with you that we will keep the rest simple, and maybe a aniversary ring 10 years from now. Who knows?!
I offered to pay for his wedding band, and he only wants ~$200 think 14 k gold band. now I feel worse of myself for over-spending 🙁
Post # 16
If a diamond is what you’ve always wanted, you should get it. Just because you wear a diamond (like myself) doesn’t mean you’ve “fallen” for the evil marketing scheme. A diamond is a beautiful stone! You can always get a conflict free diamond.
Also, if you’re getting a sapphire from Asia, child labor is also present in a number of areas related to the jewelry production there. Again, there are also conflict free gemstones you can get.