Post # 1
It’s quite hard for my FH to pick a song to dance to with his mom. He loves music but he’s beside himself with this situation.
You see when he was little he was very much a “momma’s boy”… she hung his moon and was the pillar in his world. And then when he was 12 she walked out on the family and chose her “new husband” over him. Literally…
So over the years he’s tried to come to terms with this. She still very much loves him and wants to be active in his life… they were able to maintain a semi-balanced relationship for some time. But lately he’s been drawing further and further away from her b/c of actions that she has made agaisnt his father (who has been the one who stood by my FH all these years).
The situations is really tricky, b/c I know deep down he loves her but for valid reason he feels really hurt by her. And I feel for her b/c (based on conversations she’s had with me) she really does want to patch up their relationship.
We’ve already decided that they care too much for each other not to dance together but should the song express the true feeling of their relationship like in “This Boy” or should they put on pretty faces and go with a more traditional song? What do you think would fit best and not make them feel too uncomfortable? Any other song suggestions besides what I listed?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
Hmmm, that’s definitely tricky! I’m not too farmiliar with the songs above just based on title and artist. I think it’s a matter of what makes them both more comfortable — to pick a song that “speaks” to their situation, or one that’s more traditional.
Post # 4
I’m sorry it’s such a sticky situation between your FI and his mother. i absolutely love james morrison, and i think it would totally work. “i’m still here and it hasn’t been easy” sort of seems like it describes their relationship… let us know what you end up choosing!
Post # 5
Maybe they could talk to each other and decide together.
Post # 6
I voted Lynard Skynard. I think it conveys a mother/son relationship without being too emotional. Remember your wedding day is about the happiness and love of your and your FH, so I don’t think it is necessary have a super emotional, on the relationship of your FH and his mother. But I also don’t think they necessarily need to put on happy faces and go with a traditional song either. The point of your wedding day is to celebrate your love for each other and focus on that. All the rest is the smaller details that come with that. I think Lynard Skynard can balance not pretending their relationship is something that is not, but also not being too depressing and emotional.
Post # 7
Update: his mom is really trying to find a song for them which I am super happy about. I know how much she cares, I just wish he would see that too.
She hasn’t told us what her main choices are but she has plenty of time so I’m sur eit will work out 🙂