Post # 1
My groom and I are moderately non-traditional, and we’ve planned our wedding that way. Our processional music will be instrumental versions of Beatles songs, I’m walking in to the instrumental version of Lennon’s “Imagine,” and our recessional is “All You Need is Love.” We’re getting married in a really cool music theatre and our reception is their soundstage. We’re even writing our whole ceremony, start to finish!
I say all that to say this: we knew when it came time for the unity ceremony, we didn’t want candles. Everyone we knew was doing sand. So we wanted something different. I came up with the idea of a unity painting. The idea is to start out with a small (8×10 or 11×14) blank canvas on an easel, sitting on a table with a little protective tray underneath. We would each have a different color of paint in a small glass, and would simultaneously (and very carefully!) pour our paint on to the top of the canvas, letting it run down and blend together in a really cool pattern. We’re both pretty creative, so I thought this suited us well.
My problem is the wording…I’m having a really hard time coming up with anything that I like. I want to say something about starting out with the blank canvas, how our marriage is like the canvas and it will be only what we make it be. I also want to talk about the colors blending together in some places, but staying separate in others, like how our lives will blend but we will still have the freedom to be individuals, complemented by the other etc etc….
Anyone who’s an good wordsmith have ideas? We’re getting married January 1, 2011 (happy new year!) so I’m in a pinch with writer’s block lol
Post # 3
I really love this idea. I’m not all that great with words, so hopefully the other bees can help you out. I just wanted to comment to let you know that your idea is awesome.
Post # 4
Really unique idea! I don’t know much about wording either but hopefully someone else will see this and help you!
Post # 5
Wet paint is really not something I would want anywhere near me and my wedding dress, but it sounds really meaningful.
As for the writing, when I am tutoring my students, I tell to explain what they want to say to me as if I weren’t reading their papers. More often than not, writers get hung up on the act of writing and when you distract yourself by talking to someone, the words flow. I think the paragraph you have explain the significance is a really good start. Could you try this with each other? Just start talking and have your FI write it down and then switch. You might be surprised with what you end up with! Good luck.
Post # 6
I agree with amarylis about being wary of wet paint anywhere near my wedding dress but I must say this is a very original idea
Post # 7
Really cool! You can say something about how the colors start off alone and then blend and never split again and then compare your lives and marriage to it.
Post # 8
Love this idea! I also don’t know how I would feel around wet paint… but I guess as long as you are careful then it should be no problem. Also, I am not the greatest with words… so I won’t be able to help out their.
I have to say though, I love the whole idea of your wedding. It really seems like you are making it your own and really personal. I like that. It is a true representation of the two of you.
Post # 9
Thank you all so much for your feedback! I know the whole wet paint thing may be a little scary, but I think I can handle it 🙂 We’ve been sort of practicing with some canvases, and it’s been good so far. My dress isn’t poofy or anything, so no fear of it being in the way!
FI and I will be sitting down tonight to brainstorm some wording ideas! AH! Just 22 days away now! 😀
Post # 10
I would love to hear what you come up with! This is such a cool idea!
Post # 11
@loveispatient54: I will post some rough drafts as soon as we come up with something!
Thanks to everyone that said you liked my idea – good to know I’m not crazy lol 🙂
Post # 12
Hey, my fiance and I are doing something very similar at our wedding! Our wedding colors are yellow, blue, and green, purposefully chosen because yellow and blue combined creates green. For our ceremony we are going to have a canvas set up on an eisle, and jars of yellow and blue paint. Or families are going to be represented by each of the colors (my family is represented by blue, while his is represented by yellow. We will pour the paint into trays, and place out hands in the paint. Then we will put our hand prints on either side of the canvas, symbolizing our lives before marriage, in which we were first and foremost connected to our families. Then, after dipping our hands into the paints a second time, we will join hands, thus mixing the two colors together and creating green. In the center of the canvas we will once again put our handprints, this time in the same color, and with the fingers overlapping. We plan to use a fairly large canvas, and I will probably paint an off white background prior to the wedding day. When my fiance and I have children, we will place their little handprints around ours also in green.
I realize a lot of women would be terrified of getting paint on their dress, but I figure I’m never going to wear it again, and any possible drips of paint will only mean more opportunity to tell stories 🙂
Post # 13
the idea of doing something different for a unity ceremony is great! (water works too, since each molecule is still individual, but you can never seperate them again. You could use food coloring to make your water yellow and his blue to get green water, then you might need to worry about paint for anyone who is!) I’m a creative writer by profession and I’ve been working hard on coming up with the right words for our unity ceremony (we’re using candles but instead of just having our mom’s give them to us we’re having everyone pass their flame, candle to candle, to our moms in order to symbolize the fact that our friends and family have all influenced our lives) If you haven’t come up with anything yet, message me and I’ll send you some examples of what I might use!
Post # 14
I would love to see what the finished product looks like! I want some sort of unity ceremony and the normal ideas are so boring!