- 6 years ago
I am a new BEE here! Literally Join about.. 2 minutes ago! I have always looked to this site for help, but now I am in DIRE need of some thoughts, concerns, opinons…fears.. Whichever you choose to express..
Okay, story is; Me and the boyfriend have been together for 6 years. We have finally decided to buy me a ring, not get engaged yet, just buy it because I have always wanted to pick out my own ring… To be honest, I have always been in LOVEE with pear cuts, very good, fat cut pears. Our Budget is around $2,000 and I can only go over if necessary..
A couple of weeks ago I was allowed to go to the mall and “window shop”, get an idea of what I want before dragging the MR. in. Well, I went into Zales, and this woman working there helped me create a beautiful ring, 1/2ct diamond eternity wedding band, in which I was going to have prongs saughtered on and place in a 3/4ct pear. Thing was… they did not have any loose diamonds in the store, and the only other pear they had in a setting was less than a half carot; it was then she tells me “In a few weeks we will be having a “diamond sale” and you can get an extra 25% of band and diamond”, She continues to tell me I could get a good 3/4ct pear for $1400 – $1500 to go along with my after discounted $700 band and still stay in budget, HECK YES, right? ..NO..
So me and the MR wait 4-5 weeks thinking I am going to get the ring of my DREAM within our budget!!! Needless to say, I should have taken some tylenol extra strength and kleenex tissues to prepare myself for the disappointment………
So, the $1400 – $1500 she told me about? Not. Even. Close. The cheapest diamond they had was $3500 and it was a .47ct, the MR and I were NOT happy, I was fighting back tears….. It was then I had the worst migraine set it, burning up, trying not to cry and throw up at the same time. I am ready to just leave. Mr insists on looking at the other diamonds, just to see if there was anything else I liked, of course my second choice, Emerald, was nowhere to be seen. They don’t even carry them in their show. Just as I am about to settle for a .50ct oval with my 1/2ct band. I decide to make one more lap around the store. Now, like I said before, I was in the store several weeks prior, and looked at every inch of that store, top to bottom. And I specifically remember seeing this one ring in the clearence section, thought I would go look to see if it was still there. Yo and behold, it was! And it was an additional 40% off. Origionally $3800, after everything was said and done, it came out to $2600.. It’s a beautiful 5 stone diamond ring, 1.65 ct tw. the 3rd stone (center stone) was raised above the others so it wouldnt have that anniversary band look. The MR thought it was a STEAL. Yes, very pretty, A LOT bigger than I though I would ever get.. Well, the MR continues to say in my ear “well get it, well get it if you want it, it is a nice ring” I felt kind of pressured, and my DA, was only thinking about how big it was… and I said yes, and we bought it last night. I only really spent but maybe 20 minutes with this ring before we bought it……
Thing is… I just did NOT have the reaction I thought I would have when I finally got to buy my ring. I am completely emotional and I am just am not in love with it, I like it, but I do not love it…. Now, I want to go back and look for something less, blingy or gaudy as the MR would say.. Maybe a solitaire round cut, and then later maybe get the 1/2ct eternity band later??
I feel so guilty, and bad. I know he wants me to get what makes me happy. But I want someting I know I will continue to love. I’m going to go “window shop” again and find something within our old budget, and more simple. I just don’t know if I will ever fall IN LOVE with it or not.. I am also worried he will be upset that instead of really thinking about it, I bought it out of impulse and because its big.. I’m so emotional and torn over this.. I really need help. ANY help would be appreciated…
THANK YOU SO MUCH