(Closed) HELP!!! Unsure about engagement ring!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
460 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

if you’re not happy find something else because it sounds like the future Fiance just wants you to be happy too. Just go into a store and try everything you never thought you would, you may surprise yourself. I picked something I said I did not want but once I put it on I didnt want to take it off! Also try some outlets they often have discontinued styles at a big discount thats how I got mine for so under budget (our budget was 3k for the engagement ring and we ended up with the ering and the band for 1600 tax and insurance and all!)

Post # 5
764 posts
Busy bee

Have you looked at online sites likes Blue Nile, Brian Gavin or James Allen? I think you’re probably unhappy because the proportions on that ring are off.  The center should be bigger and sidesstones smaller. Shopping at the mall is probably not a good idea 

Post # 6
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not sure about where you live, but I don’t trust the Zales in my town. The prices are high and the sales people are pushy and seem to lack diamond education. I actually checked out all the local jewelers and compared prices before settling on one I liked. I’m not familiar with pear cuts, but a round brilliant in 3/4 carat HIJ color and SI clarity, very good cut is very doable in the $2000-$3000 range. But they were about $1500 more at places like Zales, Rogers, Jarods and Helzberg.

Post # 7
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Honestly, if you are not happy with it, I would find a way to return it, if possible. I don’t think you should give up on your dream ring after just visiting one jewelry store! Shop around! It might mean a longer drive, but I think it would be worth it to get the ring of your dreams. And lots and lots of people buy rings online these days. I know it sounds a bit risky, but find a reputable shop online (I’m sure ladies here could give you a ton of recommendations) and start browsing! My boyfriend was hesitant to buy online, but I wanted a vintage ring and there are very few shops in my area that carry vintage or estate rings. We ended up going to an antique fair two hours away to get a good idea of what I wanted and then eventually found one online. As far as I know, he bought one online and had it independently appraised within the store’s return period and he has been very happy! Good luck to you and DON’T GIVE UP!! 

Post # 8
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I love that ring…. It’s very unique an beautiful, and big! But if you don’t then maybe just explain to the almost Fiance that you were upset and just felt pressured and that you are scared you don’t love it as much as you should. But if you are unsure whether you like it or not, just know that it is a gorgeous ring and maybe you just need to try on some wedding bands with it and see what you think…. also can we have a picture of it on your hand? Hope this helps!

Post # 9
522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think if you don’t love it- return it!

If your H2B had chosen it on his own or could have his feelings hurt I’d think about it. But it’s clear that he wants you to get whatever you like, and this one is simply not working for you. 

If you don’t love the ring YOU chose, it’s not going to grow on you. 

Get it back ASAP! 

Post # 10
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kcarlin:  I am sorry, people may disagree with me but the biggest mistake you could ever do is buy a diamond ring from a jewelry store in the mall. They are preying on impulse buys. The ring is pretty, but are the diamonds GIA or AGS certified? What are the quality of the stones and do you have certificates of each one? Look on Jamesallen.com, you will get a lot more bang for your buck AND better quality diamonds without the huge price tag. As an aside, I bought a .5 carat Tiffany engagement ring preowned for $850. A TIFFANY RING! I am a major advocate of buying preowned bc the markup on rings are nearly double (even more in a mall store)…my ring was bought from idonowidont.com AND was GIA certified.

*Look at bluenile.com in the previously purchased engagement ring section (it shows you rings people recently bought from the site and the price they paid):


Random Diamond Info- Also, people who say a ring does not need to be a GIA/AGS certified stone, (egl stones are just as nice, cheaper etc.)- EGL stones are not really cheaper. When a jeweler gets a diamond they decide how they will certify the stone. If the stone looks like an excellent cut, beautiful diamond, good color, clarity etc they will send it to GIA/AGS because they know it will score high since it is a better quality stone. JEwelers send the stones they don’t think will fair as well in the GIA appraisal process to EGL/IGI, etc because they know the score will rank higher in the various “C” levels than it would if GIA appraised it. 

Post # 11
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hey you should definately try to find a ring you are absolutely in love with. Something classic will continue to make you happy. The prices and markups in stores likes Zales can be a little pricey, and disapointing when you have specific styles and expectations in mind. 

I recommend shopping online for your ring, because usually the prices are much more reasonnable. (like bluenile.com or myjewelrybox.com and sites like that). Just know your ring size and the style you are looking for and you will find much more options.

My fiancé bought my engagement ring on myjewelrybox.com, and I absolutely adore it. I had tried other rings on in a local jewelry store to see what I liked best, and after shopping arround online, we were able to find LITERALLY the same ring for like 2/3 of the price!

Good luck with your search!!!

Post # 12
2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you don’t like the ring, just tell your SO that you feel you made an impulsive decision and you would like to still look around.  He would have to appreciate your desire to not be impulsive.  I’m thinking you have about 30 days before you would have to return the one you have.  Breathe, and take four weeks or so to shop around. You have time.  (Check the return policy to make sure!)

Post # 13
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Considering your migraine at the time, you were in no position to be making decisions about shiny things.  He’ll understand.  Have you considered looking at moissanite or another alternative stone so that you can get the big pear shaped look you’ve been dreaming of within budget?  

Post # 15
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

On Blue Nile alone I am seeing a lot of ways to make your dream ring happen…

I’m seeing a lot of fat pears under $1,000 for you to consider, and for slightly over $1,000 I see a .80 fat pear, VS1, J color, with slight flourescence (which may help the J appear even whiter).

And that’s just at Blue Nile. There are so many other places to go through for nicely priced diamonds online…the only drawback is not being able to examine the diamond beforehand, but a reputable company will have a no questions asked return policy if you get the diamond home and it’s not what you want.

Take that ring back to the store and start thinking about your dream ring. With some compromises, you can make it work with pretty much whatever budget.

Post # 16
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

As someone who is changing their setting after having it for several years, I say if you are not completely in love with it, then change it.  You will regret not getting what you want to begin with.

Like you, I felt pressured to get a setting.  I must have looked at every setting on the internet and in all the local stores.  Since I really could not decide what I wanted, I played it “safe” and got a 3 stone ring.  While it is a pretty ring (and most of my friends think I’m crazy for wanting to change it), it never was my dream ring and I never was in love with it.

So now, umpteen years later, I am going to get a setting I love (have it narrowed down to 2 and if I can make up my mind it will be a miracle!). Darling Husband isn’t thrilled, but he’s OK with it. He wants me to love my ring.

I too would stay away from Zales. I knew more about diamonds than the people that work there just from educating myself on the internet.


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