(Closed) Help? Unsure of surprise ceremony idea??

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I do think it would be odd if it was right in the middle of the party.  I have heard of situations where people have done something similar, but it the surprise ceremony was at the beginning.

My aunt and uncle had a semi-surprise wedding on New Years Eve a few years ago.  I say semi-surprise because the only one that wasn’t in on it was… the groom! At least until a few days before… It sounds crazy but my aunt had been through a nasty divorce and still wasn’t really over it even though she had been dating and living with this guy for a few years.  He begged her to marry him constantly, but she just said she wasn’t ready.  Finally, she decided that since they always had a big new years eve bash anyways that would be the perfect time for a wedding.  She invited all their close friends and family and for Christmas gave him a copy of the invitation saying they were getting married in just a few days.  He was absolutely thrilled and it was one of the best weddings I have ever been to.  They had it right in their house and a friend who was a florist came in and just covered the house in red roses.  They exchanged quick vows a 10 minutes before midnight and wrapped up just in time for a countdown and their midnight kiss.  Seriously, it was awesome.

I think if you were going to really make it a surprise for them you might as well legitimately exchange vows in front of them.  Otherwise, they might feel it really is all for show.  You could tell everyone that it will be a celebration of your recent elopement/city hall marriage but then surprise them with the real thing.  You could always have your finance pretend you are running late (something about being stuck in traffic, etc), then have someone announce what is really going on, and then you come into the party escorted by your dad.  The above wedding I talked about was casual that way, everyone was just standing around drinking wine and then all of a sudden someone announced, alright she’s coming in!  So you might not even have to worry about trying to get people seated, etc, especially since you said you wanted it to be quick.  Either way, I think it sounds really fun!  Good luck!

Post # 5
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157 posts
Blushing bee

@sunset love:  Ok, I got ya, sorry I misunderstood.  That sounds like a great idea but would everyone be able to see?  Either way, it could be really sweet and a fun way to involve your close friends and fam!  : )

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you haven’t had an engagement party yet you could use that as a rouse to get people there and then surprise them with having it be a wedding.  I would have done something similar except for the face that my parents are recently divorced, its hard enough to have gotten it worked out to have both of them at the wedding, so I would only be able to get one to an engagement party.  Also we are having it at an unusual time, so if we would probably miss out on having most family there because of that.  I know a few people who have done a engagement dinner party with it being a surprise wedding and said it was the best decision they made.

Best of luck figuring it out!

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