- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Let me start by saying that I don’t have anything against people who play video games, but I personally don’t like them. At all. Especially shoot em up games. Whenever FI and I come to my parents home for the weekend (usually once a month since they live fairly close), FI and my brother (freshman in high school), spend a lot of time together playing xbox. I don’t particularly like this because I lose FI for hours on end and get lonely (often at night when my parent have gone to bed), but I’m thrilled they get along so well and want them to bond.
Well, my brother got my FI an xbox for christmas. And I am so upset! I’m surprised by how upset I am and actually started crying which I never, never do. I know my brother wants them to be able to play together online, which is nice, but I’m terrified of him getting “addicted” to them like so many other guys I know. I always said I would never want to be in a relationship with a heavy video game player because I cannot stand it.
Before we lived together FI played a Playstation a lot, which wasn’t a huge deal because well we didn’t live together. However, there was one time I drove 2 hours to see him on my bday, he answered the door in his sweatpants, gave me a kiss, then sat back down on the couch and kept playing video games for an hour. I know it was 2 years ago but I was crushed and can’t stop thinking about it now that he has his new system. He had matured a lot and realizes now that he was being extremely inconsiderate.
My main concern I guess is losing our time together. We are both busy and I barely see him during the week. We both work full one plus i have class 1 night/week, he has class 2 nights/week and he has choir practice one night per week. I really value the one we have together and dread it being consumed by video games.
What makes me really upset is that my brother said to him yesterday smirking, “holly probably wont like the gift I got you.” And my parents both knew I would be upset too, but no one said anything to me.
The other issue is the money aspect. FI says this doesn’t have to cost us money but he obviously is going to need more than one controller and game. He even said the spare tv we have (where he would play since it doesn’t get cable and we only have 1 with cable) is too old and he would want to get a nicer tv to be able to play. We do not have the money. We now have credit card debt due to Xmas, just got his car out of the shop Friday with an $800 bill, and are trying to save for our wedding.
I just don’t know what to do. FI said he will return it but I know that he wants to keep it. I feel like a b**** for feeling this way and making him feel bad about it unintentionally, but I can’t help how I feel I know it’s a nice gift, but it’s just making me feel awful. I hate feeling this way on Christmas