Post # 1
We are really struggling to land on a decision for our spring 2014 wedding. Our original idea was to get married in Maui with about 20 people with us and have a week-long vacation with our nearest and dearest and end the week with a nice dinner by the ocean after a ceremony in the sand. This was all going according to plan. We booked the date with the minister and planning company in Maui for March 20th. Then, a few key family members (most importantly, my father) have said they wont be able to attend. My father and step-mom are deathly afraid of flying so they wont attend if we have the wedding in Maui. This really puts a damper on the wedding plans. If I cancel our maui wedding plan, I’ll lose about $700 right now. Most of the guests have said yes, they will travel with us. However, a few of our friends are sad they can’t share in our wedding day. Maui is an expensive destination and we are afraid our guest list will continue to diminish.
The other option is coastal NC where I’m from. It’s still at the beach. It would still be beautiful and we could have friends and family there with us (all of them). If we forego Maui for NC, we will not be able to afford even a honeymoon in Maui. We simply can’t afford both. It’s more inexpensive for guests to come to NC (we live in TN so our friends here could drive to the coast or fly for a reasonable ticket price.)
Please help us decide!!
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Post # 3
I picked NC. They are both gorgeous, but the reason for my choice was that I couldn’t imagine my wedding with out family. I’d do it in the backyard if that were the only way to have my key people there! (But I have an insanely small family)
Post # 4
Difficult decision, but if you’re close to your dad I think you’ll regret going ahead without him. I would have loved to elope, just my FI and I, but we’re going ahead with our semi-DW as that’s the only way my grandma can share the day with us. It would just have been too painful to go ahead with things if she couldn’t be there with us.
How does your FI feel? Would he be very disappointed if you skipped Maui?
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
There are so many beautiful places in NC to have beach weddings, with easily affordable beach houses to hold receptions. I’m going to go with NC because at the end of the day, you’re still getting married on a beach and all of your friends and family would be there.
Post # 6
I’d go with North Carolina. Still keep it intimate but that way your nearest and dearest can be there. Plus, the cash you get as wedding gifts might let you afford a honeymoon!
Post # 7
Fiancé has no preference. He’s a little wary of flying too… But loves the idea of golf in maui. Ha ha! He likes the idea of NC being more affordable to guests… And is pretty much on the fence too. So he’s not much help.
Post # 8
nc for sure. having your family at your wedding is very important. a wedding in maui would be lovely but it’s a huge commitment to ask of anyone.
Post # 9
Sounds to me like Maui was your dream wedding. Don’t give that up. Is it possible for your father to cruise there?