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Help! Venue decision-- its a loaded post!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    Our wedding reception was going to be held at the restaurant that is catering our wedding. It's got a very urban lounge kind of feel, but didn't provide us with the space to have dancing & it wouldn't give us the traditional wedding vibe... for awhile now I've been bothered by that. I want it to feel like a wedding, not an elaborate dinner party.

    So through some searching on google I found a link to a wedding venue that is PERFECT for what I envisioned my wedding to be. Even better are all the perks that come along with it.

    For $700 (CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?) I get the venue from 11am-2am, I can bring in my own caterer, my own alcohol, they supply a kitchen, portable bar, tables & chairs... not to mention it's got gorgeous views of the river & surrounding mountains.

    The only problem: It books up years in advance, so our summer date is not available! They did give me a date in October that had a cancellation. It's not THAT big of a deal to push it back 3 months... and my dad just told me he is having his wedding the same day as we've been planning ours (July 10). I said I wasn't going to change my date on principle, but my caterer already said he's available to cater our reception on our new date & he won't charge us anything for the change.

    Should I change my date & go for this great location? This way it won't put stress on my extended family as to which wedding to go to... plus I can have a more "normal" wedding this way.

    Is this an answer to my prayers or a complete headache? I feel like I need to change the whole feeling of my wedding from a summer wedding to a fall wedding.

     

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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    DO IT! Sounds like a blessing in disguise! You'r;e only out the cost of some papers

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Sometimes when things are meant to be, it's best not to overthink them and just act!  It sounds like an amazing deal and an amazing venue and you get the added bonus of not conflicting with other family events!

     
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    baffled111       Walla Walla WA

    Do it!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    It sounds wonderful - Do it!

    And you don't have to change anything! Who said you can't have spring colours in fallWink

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    GO FOR IT!!  So exciting!!

     
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    frankenstein    October 10, 2009   Muskegon, MI

    TOTALLY  book that venue... it's Beautiful!!!!! I had to deal with my dream venue being booked for my date and I wasn't willing to switch dates,  but if your ok with switching, DO IT!

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I'm going to go check out the venue tomorrow w/ my mom... hopefully it's as perfect as it *sounds* online & over the phone. Apparently the view from the deck is stunning & the venue has a very rustic/mountain lodge feel to it.

    After talking with my FI... this place is making more & more sense. Thanks for the support ladies :) 

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    sounds like october is meant to be... you originally had oct as your date and moved it forward so i also say do it

    goodluck!

     

     
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    Charm bracelet    July 24, 2010   Placentia, CA

    Good luck. It looks beautiful.  I can't imagine it's only 700 bucks.  What a deal.

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    @eloping: my FI was excited about that too, since he had always wanted October. It seems like the stars are finally aligning... :) It's not 10/10/10, but it's close...

    The only downside is that we're 3000 miles apart and it's another 3 months we have to be without each other. Sad. But I guess what's another 3 months when we plan (and pray and hope!) to be together for the rest of our days!  

    If I could go back-- I'd have never looked at wedding ideas, etc until 6 months before the proposed wedding date. I've never been the type of gal to dream about her wedding... I hate all the back & forth! The only thing thats stayed the same is my invites/ and STDs.

     
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    sugarloaf    summer 2010   san bruno, ca

    Since it already sounds like you have reservations about the first venue, you should definitely look into the new one you found.  If you are looking itno the more traditional wedding and not the elaborate dinner feel, then you should definitely go with something that will give you that...because the last thing you want, is looking back on your special day and wishing you had something else.

    We're having a large wedding (300+), so venue searching has been a real chore for me. I had one that i absolutely loved in the pics...The venue was nice, the location was good, the cooordinator was really on top of things, but when I actually went to tour it, I found out that we would have to set up some of the guests outside.  My FI and I werent too fond of the idea because we didnt want anyone to feel left out, so we toured a couple more venues, and ended up finding something that we absolutely LOVED and worked in every way!

    I agree, I think this was your blessing in disguise. October is a beautiful month...I love those Indian Summers...plus it will be YOUR day, not you sharing it with someone else. If it gives you butterflies when u are visiting it, then its "THE ONE"!

     
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    nybride09    9/19/09   New York, NY

    it looks gorgeous! go for it (ps don't forget to send new stds once you've confirmed new date!)

     
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    ipodgirl    August 8, 2008   Living in Bay Area/Wedding in Cancun

    I also vote to take it! It looks gorgeous and sounds like it's THE place for you. Pls update on how it is after your visit! Sooo excited for you!

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    I checked it out-- the stone fireplace is gorgeous, the views are great... but I didn't take it. All in all, it would require way too much production. I'm a major perfectionist & I honestly would have parked myself at that venue until the last detail was perfect. It would have made me & everyone else around me go insane. At my original venue everything will be set up for me :)

    My request for a "normal" wedding was really just a bridezilla moment of weakness. I never ever wanted a blow out party kind of wedding... I always wanted an upscale dinner party, as did my FI. After going to a wedding this past weekend (my wedding will have a similar vibe/feel to it) I was happy I didn't book this place. I got lost in all the planning & craziness... I'm sticking with my original day. My original plan. And I won't regret it.

    I'm learning to go with my gut & to not second guess my decisions! Thanks for all your support!

     
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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    wow it's gorgeous, book it now!!!!

    you have been blessed dont sweat it if its october vs summer, october weddings are just as beautiful and less costly--probably the reason its sucha  great deal

     

    do it!!! you love it and the price is amazing!!!

    go bee!

     
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    abrideagain    October 24, 2009   Austin

    I voted for you to take it - the one thing that I don't think that I could live with is not being 100% happy with my venue choice.  It sets the tone for your whole day, and your attitude (and love) for it will shine through.  It does stink to have to delay, but three months just gives you more time to prepare and the temperature will be better then anyway...but then I'm an October bride myself, and I'm biased!

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    actually the price is $700 year round. Thats why it books up so fast... it's insanely cheap!

     
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    cobalt    4/10/10  

    hehe, I think people are so excited about the first post with pictures that they have not read your update!

    I think your reasons for not taking the place are valid. I originally voted to take it, but if it is going to cause too much stress and will not give you the atmosphere you want, then you are making the right choice with sticking with your original plans.

    Good luck!

     

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    awww... I voted before I read the results :(

    Glad it's worked out, either way :) That's the most important thing -- by the way though, WHERE are you getting married? Not in Western Michigan by ANY chance, are you ? Because that place looks like the reception hall of my dreams...

     
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    Juliet0310    June 27, 2011   Milwaukee

    Such a beautiful reception hall....the style/vibe I have been evisioning : ) Go for it....It may be the best decision you make! Good luck.

     
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    LittleOctopus    October 10, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    It's good that you visited and really got a feel for the place before you booked it.  I'm a big fan of educated decisions, so good for you!  Your restaurant venue will be darling, I'm sure.  Can't wait for pictures!

     

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