Post # 1
Hi Bees, I need some feedback please!
So, FI are I are on a TIGHT budget. As in, around 1k to spend on food, and beverage, and alcohol for about 90 people. We don’t even have the money for an appetizer and cocktail reception (and yes, I’ve looked around).
My FI and I went to a benefit dinner recently where they had the most amazing desserts (like mini fruit tarts, mini cheese cakes, chocolate covered strawberries, & mini cupcakes) from a small bakery down the street from one of our venue prospectives. We took a card from the dessert table, and I looked into it, and it turns out that we could get some serious bang for our buck by doing a desert only reception with the aforementioned goodies from this particular bakery. I’m thinking this seems like a decent plan, as we would feasibly have our ceremony at 7:30pm with reception to follow at the same location. I would of course mention this on the invites.
To me, it was important to have drinks at my wedding so that my guests would enjoy themselves and dance, but knowing that I’ll have to spend over $500 on catered desserts, that definitely doesn’t give me too many options. I was thinking I could buy a couple kegs, a couple cases of wine, and feature a super easy/inexpensive signature drink. My thought was, how about doing Cuba Libres (rum & coke w/ lime)? The guests could pour them themselves, since I’m not having attendants.
So, as a guest would you be disappointed by a dessert reception with pop, water, beer, wine, and cuba libres?
Post # 3
@Kat: As opposed to what…?
Post # 4
I would be a little bummed about the no food options like appetizers but definitely not about the drinks, I think you are giving plenty of options and the signature drink is a good idea. I will say that I hate rum and coke though but I may be the only one. I would do vodka lemonade??
Post # 5
@Lily_of_the_valley: Yeah, I know what you mean. I really really wish I had the ability to give people a better meal, but I know that I can’t do that without getting rid of the alcohol, and to me the alcohol is more important, and I know many of my guests will agree.
@yanamari: I suppose if enough people told me that my idea was terrible, I might consider omitting the alcohol in lieu of more/better food options (It would be a hard decision for me to make). Or maybe people think that the drink options I have outlined are bad, and have another option they’d like to pitch.
Post # 6
i would love it! dessert is my fave and i’m always the one who wants to eat dessert first. as long as you let your guests know in advance that it will only be dessert then i don’t see why anyone would be upset. if they know ahead of time, they can get something to eat before the wedding.
Post # 7
@Kat: Drinks are DEFINITELY more important than food at a wedding, lol! Honestly who is thinking about eating when you are hammered and dancing all night?? Run through Taco Bell at the end of the night. 4th meal strikes again.
Post # 8
What about sangria? Cheap dry wine, club soda, fruit, mint, peach snapps, agave or peach nectar.. whatever you want to add really! For a summer night wedding, it would be very refreshing and easy to self-serve.
Post # 9
I think it sounds like a fun idea. Who doesn’t love dessert and alcohol? 🙂
Just be sure you have enough.
Post # 10
As many bees may know from seeing several other posts I’ve written, I, personally, am not a fan of serving alcoholic beverages at weddings and other hosted events, where I believe hosts ultimately have certain moral, ethical, and even legal liabilities for the resulting behavior of their guests.
To be honest, I would be even more concerned about the serving alcohol where no attendants are present to oversee the strength of the drinks that are being poured and in an environment where no regular (i.e. non-dessert-type) food, such as a meal or at least very heavy hors d’oeuvres, is being served.
ETA: “I suppose if enough people told me that my idea was terrible, I might consider omitting the alcohol in lieu of more/better food options”
Now that I’ve had a chance to see your updated comments, I will go ahead and offer a suggestion that I originally decided to refrain from including in my comment, because I wasn’t sure if you would even be willing to consider not serving alcohol. However, snce you are willing to at least entertain this idea, what about possibly having a dessert and coffee bar, where you would have incredible desserts and, with the money you would be saving by not having alcohol, hire some baristas to make some amazing, delicious, flavored coffee and chai beverages?
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think it would be great as long as there were heavy dessserts (you mentioned cheesecake which is good) and the guests DEFINITELY know ahead of time.
Post # 12
Oh okay… well I think you do need to let people know it’s a dessert reception only. I’d be pretty thrown off if there was no dinner. I’d really have wanted to eat first; when I eat dessert on an empty stomach, sometimes I just feel bleh.
Can you bring food? Like can some people in your family do some hor d’oeuvres or anything?
Could you consider a brunch? Usually much cheaper.
Post # 13
Okay, so a bit of an update. I looked at the venue today & I loved it!!! I also looked around at some different catering websites and think it may be possible do to 4 appetizers and a couple desserts (I’d have to omit the wedding cake, but that’s something I don’t care too much about anyways).
I’m still not sold on the “no alcohol” thing, as I can’t imagine that anybody at my reception would get so out of hand that they couldn’t drive home. All the drinkers live within 30 minutes or less of the venue. OTT’ers are mostly just my extremely religious family members.
Does this new plan seem to be a bit better (original drink menu to stay the same)?
4 Appetizer Platters
2 Dessert Options
Keg, Wine, & Cuba Libres
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I love the idea of apps and desserts, and as long as I knew in advance (and your reception started super late or super early, not covering a standard meal time, like you are planning) it would be great. I would almost suggest eliminating beer, though, as it doesn’t really go well with desserts. Maybe just sparkling wine and some kind of signature drink? I loved the sangria suggestion above, or some kind of yummy punch that people could just ladle into glasses. While I don’t agree with @Brielle:‘s stance on no alcohol at receptions she does have a good point about people mixing their own drinks. At least with a pre-made sangria/punch/etc you can control how strong it is and only have small glasses so it’s easier for people to pace themselvess. When we have big parties at our house I usually make a punch in huge quantities. I mix everything together but the mixer (champagne or soda) and portion it inot bowls/tupperware with enough of the ingredients for one bottle of champagne/soda. Then when the bowl is getting low all I hav to do is open a bowl, dump it in, dump in a bottle of champagne, and keep on rolling. No measuring or mixing. It takes some planning ahead but makes it so much easier that day.
Post # 15
@Kat: How many pieces per person total would the appetizers you’re considering provide?
Post # 16
@Kat: I voted that I would be happy with it, BUT I would have to know before I get there! (Otherwise I would leave early to eat)
I think you should keep it the reception short rr leave enough time between the ceremony and reception for guests to eat somewhere else.
Ooops! Just saw your update. Sounds great! Just remember to let your guests know they will be joining you for “light fare and cocktails” or something like that. 🙂