Post # 1
Hello, ladies– I don’t know what to do. We created our wedding invites (and everything that goes with them) about a week and a half ago, and they just came in a few days ago. They look absolutely beautiful, with ONE major problem: We forgot to add the option of “Regretfully decline” to our response cards! I don’t know HOW the heck we could forget something like that, but we did! Our wedding is May 31, 2014 so we have to get these out in the mail pretty much ASAP. Does anybody have any ideas for damage control?? Please note, I do not have a proper printer or computer program to create my own separate decline cards at this time.
This topic was modified 3 years ago by Pulsepoint129. Reason: typographical
Post # 2
For the ones you don’t get back with Accepts. Just call the guests to confirm their absence.
Your RSVP is like the opposite of regrets only ones. So no big deal.
Post # 3
What exactly does the response card say? Is it like eg. ___ of 4 happily accepts?
Post # 4
Lollybags: Something similar to that, yes–it has a line that says M_______________ plus number attending and food choices.
Post # 5
Pulsepoint129: oh I wouldn’t worry too much then! if I got a response card like that I wouldn’t think anything of it, I would just figure they wanted me to put the number who could attend and from that they’d know if anyone couldn’t by subtracting it from the number invited.
Post # 6
This might be seen as tacky by some, but you could have your own wedding website with all of your wedding info and inform people you’ve forgotten the regret to decline portion and somehow have then RSVP their declines on your site. Personally I would email/call/even have a private fb group and let people know what happened and then ask them to RSVP to decline by letting me know online somehow.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Agreed, an FB/ wedding website would be a good way to keep tabs.
funny the things we overlook! No stress, everyone will probably figure it out and just write “0” attending…?!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry about it! I’d just keep tabs on the people you don’t get a response back from.
Post # 9
Agree with all the PPs. Also I’d say the most important part on the invites is your names and the wedding date. 😛
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Office supply stores tend to have mass-printers and pre-made invitation templates these days! I would check there and see if they could print you up something.
Alternately, not a big deal based on what you described. If I got a reply card like that and couldn’t go, I’d just write “0”.
Post # 11
LOL… I’d have fun with it, call everyone up, and tell them it wasnt on there becsue they better show up, becasue they arent allowed to decline. Hence why it isnt there. LOL In a joking way of course
Post # 12
Pulsepoint129: I PMd you earlier, since I can no longer post from my phone in this new WB format. I’m not sure if you saw what I sent to you, so, now that I am at my computer, I thought I would reply here also. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your response cards exactly as they are. The reasons for this are that: 1) Printed reply cards are not even considered to be a part of formal etiquette (historically, those invited to an event took out their own personal stationery and wrote a note to the hosts to either accept or decline an invitation); 2) your response cards already ask for the number of guests attending, and anyone who is unable to attend will understand that he or she is supposed to write “0” in the space provided; and 3) it is not considered to be polite for hosts to attribute emotions to their guests. As a result, wording such as “happily accepts” and “regretfully declines” actually should be avoided.
So, you have nothing to fix and no reason to be concerned! 🙂
Post # 13
lealorali: yea, I probably would write 0 attending in that case.
Post # 14
Could you print on a couple of small, plain papers (not card) and slip them inside?
You could put: Regretfully decline on them? And space for their name/address..
I chuckled when I read this post because it’s like: Of course everyone is gonna come! 😀
Yayy keep it positive 🙂
Post # 15
Haha! I forgot to put the time on mine. We will text/FB message/call folks to let them know the time. I don’t want them arriving at 7 am or 5pm, when it is in the afternoon. I made my own invitiations, so I figured something would be off, oh well. You can just call or message folks at best, but there is really no need. If they don’t want to attend they can cross the whole card out, put zero, or write no.