- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Hello Bees! I’m in a bit of a pickle and not quite sure how to go about this so I’m hoping someone has some guidance as to how we can make this work. I’m going to try to be as brief and concise as possible so please stay with me!
My partner and I are a same-sex couple who reside in the DC area but are planning a destination wedding in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. Fiancee has a big family but we chose to have a very limited ADULTS ONLY guest list. The kids and other friends/family understood this and are completely ok with it.
If you aren’t Brazilian, then your marriage isn’t legally recognized in Brazil, whether gay or hetero so we have to perform a legal ceremony stateside.
From the beginning we wanted my fiancee’s SIL to officiate our wedding because she’s know FI practically her whole life and simply cause she’s that damn awesome so we are going to make it official in Maryland at some point before the Brazil trip.
The problem we are running into is trying to figure out what to do here.
There are 8 nieces and nephews who would love to be a part of the wedding somehow plus we have some friends and co-workers that cant make it to Brazil so I said why don’t we host a BBQ (probably at a park), perform a quick “I DO” ceremony and then party on until the park closes. FI threw me for a loop by suggesting justice of the peace and then dinner.
This isn’t something I am even remotely a fan of and I’m rather disappointed that’s what she wants. I want this to be a celebration of family, friends and love – especially for the people that cant join us in Brazil. It wont be fancy by any means and we don’t want/expect gifts; we just want folks to be there to enjoy our union officially.
I also should add that FI is a serious introvert while I am the complete opposite so where is the middle ground? I seriously am asking for suggestions because her JOP idea is definitely not what I want and she thinks the BBQ might be too much.