Post # 1
So I did a financial timeline from here to the wedding and… we can’t afford everything unless we borrow or charge a lot of it…
I need to know… How did you trim your budget?
Skip the guest book?
Re-used old shoes?
Didn’t take a honeymoon? (I really don’t want to skip that one, although it would save us $3000)
Skipped those traditional gifts to the wedding party and parents?
No rehearsal dinner?
Wear jewelry you already own?
Please HELP. My Fiance cried last night after he saw the numbers because now he feels like he can’t give me the wedding i want…. I have already sacrificed so much… but to scrifice even more..?
I really wanted to pay for makeup for my girls and my mom on the big day… That wold be $235… That’s not even including hair…
I don’t know what to do…
Did you pay for the M.O.H. and bridesmaid dresses? what about their accessories?
Any ideas could help!
Post # 3
– No guest book (we’re doing question cards on each table instead, that I’m making)
– Favors are being made by my grandma
– Jewelry is from Target and Forever21 (plus earrings that I already own)
– I’m not paying for anything for the BMs except their jewelry (and gifts, but that’s not part of the budget)
– DIYed centerpieces, invitations, and backdrops for ceremony and reception, bought cheap runners for tables, card box is a birdcage that my grandma has from another wedding
– No parent gifts (unless we decide to do mini albums)
– My grandma is doing the one alteration that I need on my dress (which was relatively inexpensive in the first place)
– Friday wedding, which means our venue minimum is half that of Saturdays (although I hear that prices went up again)
– Video is going to be taken by FI’s little brother (if we do decide to do it/thinking about doing a video guestbook, too)
– Ceremony venue is a local park amphitheatre that includes seating, $140 for three hours
Basically, LOTS of DIY.
Post # 4
I’d cut out favors (who really cares in the long run?) and maybe ask your bridal party to do their hair/makeup themselves or pay for it if they want to. We all did our own hair and makeup for my friend’s wedding a few years ago and loked very nice!
Sit down together and each make a top 3 list of what is the MOST important to you about the wedding. Work from those, and cut out what you can to make those things happen.
Post # 5
yes to all of that.
Skip guest book
wear shoes you already have (or new ones you can get for less than $50)
don’t pay for your BM’s dresses or makeup/hair (they will understand)
have a rehearsal dinner that is really limited to those in the wedding (no dates, kids, etc) and do it at someone’s house – BBQ or tacos or something.
there are a lot of ways you can cut costs. It will be ok 🙂
Post # 6
Cut out favors because nobody really cares. I would skip gifts to your parents or do small gifts and give your girls small gifts also. The people you love don’t want to see you suffer financial hardship because you wanted to give them fancy gifts.
Also, I would cut hair and makeup for your bridesmaids. They can DIY or pay for it themselves. I think most adult women are capable of getting ready for a fancy party on their own. If not, they can pay for their own hair/makeup.
I also wouldn’t expect my bridesmaid dress to be paid for if I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man (and have paid for my own in the past). You could buy their accessories as their gift, or allow them to choose their own accessories.
Post # 7
skip the gues book. I threw mine away after 10 years.
Favors, agree- who cares, they are a waste and just thrown in a drawer in a garbage can. We are doing a popcorn buffet and having bags provided.
rehearsal dinner….find a cheap caterer or go to a restaurant and have people pick up their own tabs or just not do it..go to a bar for drinks.
Bridesmaids should be paying for their own things.
Post # 8
It sometimes helps if you put your budget up (or at least the parts you are concerned about) so we can see where you can cut. Definitely cut guest book and favors, and don’t pay for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses or hair and makeup. If you can’t pay for hair and makeup just make it optional for them to get it done and do it themselves.
Post # 9
What have you already paid for or put deposits down on? So we know what we’re working with.
You don’t need favors.
You don’t need a guest book.
You don’t need toasting flutes or a fancy cake cutting set.
You don’t need new shoes.
You don’t need new jewelry.
Your girls can do their own hair/makeup.
You can do smaller, more personal and heartfelt but cheaper presents for parents and wedding party.
The last thing I would cut would be the honeymoon. But that’s me.
Post # 10
Cut out favors and do really cheap gifts. Do a small, pizza-at-your-house rehearsal dinner. Don’t buy new jewelry or shoes. Make a cheap guest book.
How much do you need to cut out?
Post # 11
I would skip all of the things mentioned. If I could see the breakdown of your budget, I could give you more specific advice. Also, I know you don’t want to lose your honeymoon, but is there any way you could scale it back? We’re managing to do a week for 1,100 buy not staying in a nice hotel and going somewhere we can drive to and by not eating out all meals a day.
Post # 12
Also consider bumping honeymoon back into the off season. We saved $1,000 by booking at the very, very end of August as opposed to smack in the middle of summer. We are having an 8 day, all inclusive in the Riviera Maya for about $2300 (including airfare).
Post # 13
@Glasgowbound: Unfortunately, we already sent the save the dates… So trimming the guest list would not be very nice…
We have booked, all for reasonable prices:
– Our venue and ceremony
– Rentals (Tent for rain and chairs, possibly adding a signing table)
So those are set.
So far, we have cut:
– My sister is making the cake for free, she is really good.
– My sister is making the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses to save money, so we just have to buy fabric.
We still need:
– Cake topper
– Cake stand
– His and her’s shoes
– My accessories
– His shirt and tie
– Gifts for wedding party and parents…
– Hair and makeup
– Guest Book
– Something for cards…
– Our Honeymoon!
– I still owe $785 on my dress…
All of these added up (the payments that will be due, along with all the ”fluff” I just outlined above) adds up to almost 7000-8000$. That’s a lot of spending for 4 months time (wedding is end of June)
Luckily, my mom is covering for food and wine for the guests. We are expecting about 60 people.
I really wish we would have saved more…
Post # 14
vorpalette forever 21 is such a great place for cheap jewelery! I never even thought of it for wedding jewelery but they always have cheap blingy stuff… good idea!
and i agree with pp’s no favors needed!
Post # 15
Wow a lot of responses while I was typing that, lol. Thank you so much ladies! I appreciate your help everyone!
Post # 16
Can you postpone the honey moon by 6 months or a year? No fancy trip is worth your FI’s teas. It’s not a need, it’s a want, no? Skipping favors and guest book won’t save you as much as 3,000.