Post # 1
Hi Bees! I would love some thoughts on how to incorporate a wedding band. My fiance was the sweetest ever, and had this ring custom designed. The gemstone is the center of a flower (see the petals?) and there are butterflies on the sides of the band– butterflies have always been our thing and we’re even having a butterfly themed wedding! The ring was a COMPLETE surprise. I’d never considered a gemstone ring, but my fiance wanted a blue stone to match my eyes (awww!). I never imagined he would create a custom ring!! I love the ring and how unique it is, but I’m wondering about a band…
My fiance said the jeweler who helped him design the ring could make a band, and it would be contoured and simply be a yellow gold band fitted to the ering. I think I would have to keep it a plain band because the ering is so detailed, having a detailed wedding band would just be too much? Thoughts?
My other thought was to have my mother’s wedding band as my band, but to wear it on the other hand (her band is thick with detailed metal work of flowers– it’s hard to describe but beautiful!). It couldn’t be worn with my ering, but it could be on my right hand ring finger. I loved this idea because my dad passed away when I was 14, and the ring is very sentimental to me. My mom keeps the ring in a box because she no longer wears it (b/c she started dating again, woohoo!). My mom said I could have her ring, but she didn’t love the idea because she thinks the wedding band should be something from my future husband, not from her. I think sentimental is better! My fiance is indifferent– he spent so much thought and effort on the ering, he wants me to do the wedding band however I’ll be most happy.
I’m torn– can I get some opinion?? 🙂
Post # 3
@SoonToBeSimmons: First of all, that ring is BEAUTIFUL and I simply need some more photos 🙂
If it were me, I would do both. I would take your mom’s ring if she offered it and wear it on my right hand, from the wedding forward. And I would custom make a thin countoured wedding band to wear up against your e-ring. Best of both worlds!! If it were me, I would consider adding some small diamonds (or another stone) to the band. You dont want the detail of your e-ring getting lost in a sea of gold metal!
Welcome to the Hive and congrats!!
Post # 4
@wrkbrk: Thank you so much! I’ve gotten some odd looks from people for not having a diamond, so it’s lovely to hear you say such kind words 🙂
I hadn’t considered that adding stones might actually enhance the look of the ring, and I absolutely love that idea!! Would very small diamonds in a band lok odd with my aqua stone? I’m so excited to meet with the jeweler and see what’s available…I’d love to do small aqua and diamond accents in the band!
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I wouldn’t wear a wedding band with that ring. You could always skip the “wedding band” and have your ring be a 2-for-1 deal (that’s what my Mom did). Or switch your e-ring to your right hand and wear a stand alone wedding band (your Mom’s or a different one) on your left hand. The one thing I would not personally do is wear a wedding band on my right hand because the left hand wedding band is one tradition that is important to me. But, to each her own. If you would really rather wear your wedding band on your right hand, go for it. 🙂
Post # 6
@lovekiss– I agree with you that I would really like to have the wedding band on my left ring finger. It’s such a nice tradition! And the e-ring fits a little more snugly on my right hand ring finger, which I like– loose rings make me nervous!
I apoke with my fiance about wearing my ering on my right hand and using a completely separate band on my left ring finger, and he wasn’t a fan of the idea. He’d be supportive regardless, but he told me it meant a lot to him that the ring he spent so much time designing for me was the ring that symbolized our commitment and was worn on my ring finger. I get that. But I’m still not sure what I’m going to do! Either find a nice custom wedding band to fit the e-ring, or just go with a right-hand wedding band which I’m not a huge fan of….we will see!! I would love to hear any other suggestions! 🙂
Post # 7
What a gorgeous ring! I agree with the jeweler about a more simple gold band!
Post # 8
I would do a simple contoured gold band, anything more would take away from your lovely e-ring!