Help Wedding Date Conflict!

posted 2 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Would you attend a Mothers Day wedding?
    Yes : (12 votes)
    29 %
    No : (16 votes)
    39 %
    Yes, If it's after 4pm : (13 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    1538 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I personally chose to avoid a date to avoid Father’s Day. I know many people on here will say its not a big deal and I don’t think you would lose any of your most important guests, but I think you would end up losing some of the outliers – the coworkers, distance cousins, etc. If that is ok with you, stick with that date. To me, I wanted to make it as easy as possible for all my guests to attend, so I avoided any holiday where people may have set plans. I know my family has a yearly cookout on Mother’s Day. If I was invited to a wedding, I may skip the cookout but only if it was a super close friend.

    Post # 4
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    6032 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Really this is going to depend on how big a deal your guests make of Mother’s Day. In my social circle, we all take our moms out the night before (not as a group or anything, just everyone goes for a nice dinner with Mom on Saturday instead of Sunday) because restaurants are so crowded on Mother’s Day. So it would be absolutely no big deal to go to a Mother’s Day wedding in my circle, even if it started early in the day.  I think you need to talk to some of your guests, especially those with children, and get their point of view rather than seeing what the general opinion on weddingbee is. You could also throw a casual Mother’s Day Eve dinner as your rehearsal and invite the locals as well as the out-of-towners so that the Mothers could celebrate (you’d have to share the spotlight with them but that shouldn’t be a hardship for most folks).

    Post # 5
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    42538 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would go even though I have children. We usually celebrate by going out to breakfast/brunch or the kids making a special breakfast at home.

    Post # 6
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    430 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Totally depends on the guests and what they do for mothers day.  I would attend a wedding since Mothers Day isnt a whole day affair, my sister on the other hand has a full blown schedule for that day with her children so she wouldnt go.  I think this whole date thing may cast a dark shadow over you because youll be worried about people blowing it off the whole time.  For your sanity and piece of mind I would really try to just book another date.

    Post # 8
    Member
    1538 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    danayunglee:  Are you doing a wedding website? I would include the information there instead. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    802 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

    danayunglee:   Since you’re not inviting children, I would probably change the date. Are you also doing a Sunday wedding (Mother’s Day is a Sunday isn’t it?)

    You’re working with two strikes against you by doing Mother’s day and a Sunday if so. 

    I don’t have kids, but if it was a friend, I would feel bad that I wouldn’t be spending Mother’s day with my mom… we usually have a family BBQ

     

    Post # 11
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    613 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I probably wouldn’t attend a wedding on a holiday, espcially a family-orientated holiday and the whole family isn’t invited.

    If you decide to keep the date I would definately make note of it somehow since mothers day is one of the holidays that always has a different date. I usually only remember it’s mothers/fathers day a week or so in advance.

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    missamysmiles:  For me, I probably wouldn’t care but I don’t live in the same city as my mom so I don’t usually see her.  If I had small children, I would probably feel weird leaving them home on mothers day.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    This is a tough choice.. it really depends on your circle, though.

    My circle would probably be okay with it, most of us get gifts well in advance of mothers day, and don’t really do anything the day of because eateries are so busy with people.

    I would normally advise to stay away from holidays, but I don’t consider mothers day an actual “holiday”, like one where people would travel and things.

    Post # 14
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    2893 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    If you have a Sunday wedding, moving it later is going to lose you more guests than gain guests because it is mother’s day.  I would look at what your social circle does for mother’s day in general and decide.  For us, no one celebrates it other than those with really young children, and normally that is just because the kids made them a picture.  It is not an entire day affair. 

    Even with kids, I would attend a wedding on Mothers day, but I would not attend a Sunday wedding where dinner was served later than 5:00.   Maybe if I was close to the couple and had the time to burn, I would ask off Monday and attend something later, but DH probably wouldn’t, and we would want to head home and not be impolite by 8:30 at the latest. 

    Post # 15
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    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    danayunglee:  my conflict would be more that it’s a sunday wedding and less that it’s mother’s day. i don’t know of many people who celebrate mother’s day into the night, haha. usually it’s brunch or lunch, or dinner the night before.

    but if you’re having a child free, late wedding…as a guest my first thought is not “awe but i wanted to spend the day with mom!” my first thought is “dude what the heck i have to work on monday!” 

    if you do opt to have it on the sunday, i would be sure to remind guests on your website. maybe you could toast all the moms, grandmas, and mother figures at the reception. if you have the option though, could you push it to a saturday? i think that would let you have the most attendance.

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