Post # 1
So I’m a little confused with this whole “day of timeline” business.
I had never even heard of one before I came on these boards. I was in a wedding a couple years ago and the bride never sent us a timeline.. we just knew when to be at the venue by, and what time the ceremony started.
Do I really need to send my bridal party a timeline? Knowing some of them (esp the groomsmen) they will just throw it away and not even look at it.
I did a rough draft of one, more to help myself plan out the day and figure out what time I needed to get my hair done, and all that.
My venue coordinator and DJ never asked for me to give them a timeline. So I’m a little confused if they are the ones deciding when the first dance, bouquet toss, etc will take place?
Help! Did anyone else NOT do a day of timeline? And if you did do one, did you send it to all your vendors and bridal party?!
Post # 3
Every vendor I’ve worked with so far has asked me for a timeline repeatedly. I find it really, really odd that yours hasn’t and if I were you I would make one for them. Maybe they aren’t sure you want them to be the MC? One of my friends had her wedding ruined because of a bad DJ who didn’t announce anything and the whole evening was very confusing.
Post # 4
@LaurenKK: I just called the coordinator at the venue and he told me I didn’t need a timeline. He told me on the phone what time they were doing everything, and it actually lined up exactly with what I put on my rough draft/timeline.
I guess he said that he coordinates it and consults with the DJ and they work together to make sure everything goes smoothly, so the bride can relax.
But I’m still freaking out because I’m a type A and I like to plan everything – haha.
Post # 5
And when I met with the DJ, he asked me what we were doing specifically (first dances, cake cutting, toasts, etc.) but never asked me what times exactly we were doing everything (besides what time the ceremony started, when we were doing pictures, etc.)
Hmmm. Hopefully everything works out ok!
Post # 6
Wow! You are so lucky! I wish my peoples would just figure stuff out for me based on my ceremony time. This timeline stuff has been a huge pain in my booty.
Post # 7
We had a co-ordinator for our private ceremony overseas and she did the timeline. I was not involved with this timeline at all (given it was minimal, being a private ceremony and all) and the day after I was FREAKING OUT because things happened that were out of my control.
If you’re Type A, like me, make sure you communicate with the venue coordinator and get him to send you the timeline. Maybe that way you can, you know, print it out and make it look all pretty (if you’re into that sort of thing), you’ll feel much more involved and you’ll be able to give it to whatever vendors you want.
Our MC did everything ad hoc at our reception (on a different date) but he followed a rough timeline that I gave him (I just told him we’d be doing speeches, first dance, father daughter dance and cake cutting) and it turned out really well. He had been doing weddings for 20 years so he knew his stuff. I trusted him completely to get it right and he did, which definitely meant I could relax more. I was also really drunk at the reception, which helped a lot 🙂
Post # 8
The timeline is more for me. I will be giving an edited version to the DJ as he will need to know when to announce stuff and what music to play, etc. I am making a bridal party itinerary so the girls can see what we’re doing week of, and what times they need to be where. i will tell them too but some people like having that stuff for reference.