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Hi all,
I've been amazingly indecisive about the entire wedding process (second-guessed pretty much everything but the groom!) but this debate feels like the only one that matters. I bought a wedding dress last month that is awesome (photo on the left) with lots of beading and detail - it's not anything I ever imagined (and that is how I described it to everyone) and I was excited to not having the same dress you see every week on TLC. However now it's starting to sink in that I do not have the dream ball gown wedding day princess look I always pictured... and I want to get the other dress (on the right). I will lose the deposit on dress #1 (a hefty chunk of change) so I'm very torn... both dresses are amazing and I know I could be happy in either... would I regret the change? Oh and by the way, my fiance told me the other night how much he loves my shoulders - so of course I'm thinking I need strapless! What to do...
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I like dress #1, its unique and fun, dress 2 is beautiful also. Keep dress #1 its the first one you loved!!!!
I really like and prefer #1! There are so many dresses out there, it is hard not to have a little buyers remorse. Many people end up will a different dress than they thought they would. But, there was a reason you chose it the first time.
dress 1 for sure...No hesitation whatsover in saying that. Its more flattering. The second one Im a bit overpowered by the flower... pity, because its still nice. But def no 1!
# 1 for sure! It is crazy flattering. I think you'd be nuts to ditch it. But I completely understand and I did the same kind of thing so I know where you're coming from. I just feel like I've seen #2 over and over and I don't think it looks as good as #1- which is sexy, sophisticated and fun.
I think dress #1 is more flattering on you! I like that it's different and fun, you should keep it!!! :)
I really love dress #1 and agree it is unique and flatters your body (and shoulders) very nicely.
However, I had the same kind of issue with dresses like these. It isn't often (well besides prom never) that I get to wear a full ball gown dress. I wanted my wedding dress to be unique and something different. I didn't want to look back and feel like I was just wearing a beaded white evening gown. So I completely understand why you might have remorse about actually buying dress #1.
However, with that being said, now that I have switched to a more standard strapless ballgown, I do sometimes wonder if I will blend into the "strapless fad" (no I don't think its a fad, but there is sure a lively debate about that here on WB). While I don't want to remember my dress as just another evening dress, I also don't really want to feel like "just another strapless ballgown wedding dress".
Check out my bio for pics of my dress if you are interested.
I agree with you #2 looks very amazing on you! and Could your SO be hinting at a strappless? lol
Maybe you could sell dress #1 for what you paid, but it would be a lil better if you knocked a few bucks off.
I too have buyers remorse! I bought my dress to hastily, and I almost hate it know(story lol).
But the best of luck on your decision!!
Personally, I think your body & figure look amazing in dress one.. but it's up to you. I'm sure you could find something that was fuller in the skirt that would be flattering as a ballgown! You have to choose if you want that "princess" moment.
Aw no, I LOVE your original dress, keep it!!
Honey, I had all these ideas in my head about my wedding and then when we got engaged and really started planning, it all just about went out the window. I think brides are in love with the idea of a princess ballgown because it just oozes fairytale and bride. I know I was but I went a complete opposite direction with a more fitted dropped waist modified mermaid. I really dont youll regret it if you keep it, its beautiful and its so sweet of your FI to say he loves your shoulders but I wouldt change my dress because of it. Its what you like and feel beautiful in and chances are pretty good that hell love it, too and think youre the most beautiful woman he's ever seen :)
First of all, your body looks AMAZING in the dress you bought! I also think that the other dress is not nearly as flattering, and please realize I'm saying this gently, I think it actually makes you look "bigger" than you are. I also think that the neckline and straps are perfect and very flattering for your shoulders! Like, really... YOU LOOK REALLY FREAKING AMAZING IN THE DRESS YOU CHOSE!
I do totally understand your regret though! I too REALLY REALLY REALLY wanted a ball gown. All my other "close calls" are full ball gowns... And, I bought a mermaid! lol There have been a lot of times where I think, shoot, did I make the right call? I see ball gowns and swoon and I get tempted to be a two dress bride :-) in the end though, the one I chose WAS the best for me. And, in your case, I think it is great for you too!
If you do decide to ditch the dress you have for a ball gown, I would keep looking though. There are many other ball gowns out there that will compliment your body like the first dress....
I LOVE that first dress!
Seriously. L.O.V.E. it. Who is it by? Do you want to donate it to me if you don't wear it? ;) just teasing.
It is way better than the ballgown. The ballgown is pretty too, but like many others have said - it just doesn't flatter your figure the way the first one does. You look like a million bucks in the first one.
Dress #1 is so much more flattering on you! I really think you should keep it - it's gorgeous!
The one on the left (your original dress) is AMAZINGLY gorgeous and I do not think you should change a thing. I like it better than the strapless one.
Thank you all! Quick update - the dress on the right was not zipped up, so I do look a lot wider in it, if that makes any difference... here's a blurry picture of it held together - not a great shot, but a better idea of how it would fit. It's really quite flattering, and would also have a sweetheart neckline. Also, this was the first dress I chose, I just didn't put a deposit down.
But yes, I know I look smaller in dress #1... but do I want to wear a beaded evening gown to my wedding? Just not sure... thanks again!!
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I think dress #1 is much more flattering to your figure. It's so unique and looks amazing. I say trust your first instinct!
The one on the left is beautiful and far more flattering on you. Seriously, you look a good 20 pounds slimmer in that dress. The other one does not play up your pretty figure nearly as well.
I agree! #1 looks amazing and it's unique! Stick with it - you made the right decision.
definitely #1. its so different than other wedding gowns. in an awesome way. and it looks great on your body.
I think you should stick with dress number 1. Before I read the post and just saw the pics, I thought, "oooh what a sexy, fun dress!" You look amazing. I wish I had the body type to pull that off, because I would have gone in that direction. I think the second dress is gorgeous, but you're going to really stand out in dress 1. And probably be a little more comfortable too!
I also agree that dress #1 really shows off your curves and like you said, it's a different dress than what you see on TLC!
I love #1. I think it's gorgeous and unique.
Okay, so with seeing the second picture of dress two, it looks much better on you, but I still really like dress one on you. It's not something traditional, but it's very beautiful. If you want to do something more traditional, then go for dress two. Other than losing your deposit, you can also try to sell your dress and make all or most of the cost back.
Dress #1 is much more flattering and much more unique. No contest!
#1! It looks so great on you! #2 is a beautiful dress but it doesn't flatter you.
My vote is for Dress #1! It's very elegant! I say keep Dress 1!
I agree with most other posters--#1 is so flattering! #2 is gorgeous but I think #1 is way better on your body...One suggestion. I also got a non traditional dress that originally covered my back and shoulders (which are my fave body parts). I talked to the seamstress and they altered the back and shoulders so that the shoulders were spaced out wider and the back came down in "V" instead of straight across. You may want to talk to the seamstress and see if there is anything they can do...
You really should keep dress #1! It looks amazing on you! I personally think it flatters your figure more than the other dress. Forget the shoulder comment, your dress is unique because it isn't strapless.
I like dress #1 the best. It still shows off your shoulders & you don't loo like a big marshmellow (not that you did in dress #2). I guess because I've outgrown the big poufy dress, to me, they look like big marshmellows. :)
I prefer 1 definitely! Would you be interested in transforming it into a mermaid and maybe putting some peek-a-boo tulle underneath to punch it up?
Number One. I love the beading. It just looks great on you. But you don't have to listen to us, I polled the hive on dresses and than chose the one with the second to last number of votes, go figure. I second guessed myself for a while but then I was happy.
you literally look 20 lbs smaller in the first one, with a teeny tiny waist. and its beautiful! the other is nice, but not nearly at flattering or unique.
Dress #1 is MUCH prettier and MUCH more flattering! You made a good choice with your first instincts!
I'm going to be no help becuase I think dress 1 is more flattering, but I love dress 2! sorry! Either way though, you can't go wrong :)
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