HELP Wedding Favor Nightmare – good intentions gone horribly wrong

posted 2 years ago in Favors
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

can you paint the costers? 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

colleen.nerissa:  Don’t tell her the bells are fugly, just tell her that they will be annoying at the reception. Even as a guest I’d be super annoyed. Will there be kids there? What a nightmare. Just tell her you don’t think the bell is a good idea (not that it’s cheap or ugly).

With the coasters, like a PP mentioned, can you paint them? Or maybe make photo stickers and stick over the other photo?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Can you just tell her that you appreciate her going out of her way to do something like that but you and your future husband had already decided on __________ as a favor and it’s something that is very important to you both. I would follow it up with, “I was wondering if you would like to help me pick out _____ since I know it’s important to you that you are involved with planning!”  Basically, tell her no but offer to let her help with something else so she doesn’t feel left out. Weddings aren’t about in-laws as they are about two people getting married. But that’s just my .02 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee

urgh… What is it with mothers? My mother also went out and bought favours without consulting us. The favour in itself isn’t horible, but she bought these huge akward boxes for the favours to go in. It doesn’t go with the decor at all, and I feel sooo bad to tell her that I hate it.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why on Earth would she get you coasters with a picture of another couple? That is so random.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - The Wayside Inn

If I were you, I’d be upfront: tell your mom you really appreciate her help with the wedding, but you already have most of the details already sorted out and you don’t want her wasting her money on more surprises that aren’t necessary for the wedding (can you tell her that you’d already purchased favors, even if that’s not true?). Is there a specific job you could give her that you think she’d do to your taste? It sounds like she just wants to be involved! My mom is the same way (thankfully we have very similar taste!)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

colleen.nerissa:  they both sound awful. If you can’t tactfully say no thanks, then firmly say no thanks. A picture of another couple?? That doesn’t even make sense! And BELLS?? Oh dear god no.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My god- I mean if it were a picture of YOU TWO at least!

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