Post # 1
So Fiance and I are trying to pick a date for the big day but the problem is, he is returning to school this September for a 2 year program. It doesn’t have breaks other than a week here and there, between classes and practicums. I was thinking Easter long weekend of 2015 would be a good time but he thinks maybe we should wait until the Septmeber after hes done (2015) so hes not so busy. I reminded him that at this time its likely he will be starting a new job, in a new career, and will be just as busy/stressed!
So, bees, my question is, have any of you (or someone you know) gotten married while one/both was in school or will be getting married during that time? Do you think its a good or bad idea? And is it strange to return to normal life right after the wedding without any time off? Note: we won’t be going on a honeymoon right away because we know its not a good time if Fiance is starting a new job!
I added a poll but would love some input too, Thanks bees!
Post # 3
I would choose a time that is better for you. They sound about equal for your Fiance
How involved will your Fiance be with the planning and arranging things? If he wants to be very involved it might be worth waiting. Maybe even later than fall 2015.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Getting married while I was in school was definitely less stressful because it took me months of applying and interviewing to get a job. I would have been miserable trying to find a job and planning a wedding; even though it’s “free” time, I wasn’t going to school and I wasn’t getting paid so I was really stressed out about how to get a job and pay the bills.
Post # 5
Do you have money? To me school and work hardly came conflicted. But if the money wasn’t there (which for us, it was) it will be far more difficult.
Post # 6
I voted for Spring 2015. Interviewing for jobs seems a lot more stressful than school. Also, he may have to take some time off for the wedding. It seems easier to do this during school (think school breaks, potentially flexible class schedules) than when you start a new job.
I am a little biased though. I am getting married in May 2014 and then starting graduate school in the fall. My Fiance will not graduate until May 2017 due to financial issues. I’m not waiting that long! Thankfully my Fiance has a good job.
Post # 7
I’m in nursing school and we’re getting married in December while I’m on winter break. I graduate two months after we get married. It works for us because after I’m done with school I need to focus on studying for my board exam, applying for jobs and helping my bestfriend who’ll be getting married 6 months after me.
Post # 8
@laciekate: I’m in school and we are getting married in November. The plan is to take out honeymoon over Christmas break, so a month later. Life is busy, don’t put your plans on hold.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone for the advice. I’m guessing that Fiance will be about as invovled as most grooms? Haha he seems to want some say (which is good because I want that!!) but he usually trusts my judgement with things (exampe: decorating our home). We’re planning to do a lot of the big details (venue, food, etc.) before he starts in September, epsecially because we will be moving 5 hours away from where we will actually be having the wedding. We also decided That we may wait until May of 2015 when Fiance is finished his last exams and has a week off before starting his final practicum, it seems like a good time for him, and the weather should be a warmer too!
Post # 10
I’m getting married while at university because it’s actually the least stressful time! I have a break in July when I know I have no work to do and nothing to prepare for my teaching placements (I’m studying primary teaching). However, if I waited until I’m finished my degree (this November), I’d be in the middle of applying for jobs, hopefully getting a job, planning, setting up my classroom etc – talk about hectic! And I really didn’t want to put it off until 2014 or later. I think if you can manage financially you should be fine to do it while one or both of you is at uni.