- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So back in May we moved into our first house together.
It’s in the suburbs, but in our neighborhood, the houses are pretty close together. Most people have a chain link fence or a privacy fence, but our house, and the 4 houses to our left and right, do not, so our yards all kind of run into one another.
(we are planning on putting up a fence after the wedding, once we have the money, because we have a dog).
Anyway, about a month ago, we had some friends over for a bonfire, some drinks, and some s’mores.
Everything was going great until about 11pm, we hear this voice from 2 houses down. He’s standing on his porch, introducing himself and asking us if we’re new to the neighborhood. It was kind of weird because it was out of no where and it was pitch black and we couldn’t see him. Next thing we know, he’s walking into our yard asking if he can join us.
It was only then that I realized that he was a teenager. Like, braces and everything. Maybe 17 at the oldest.
We were all kind of flabbergasted and didn’t know what to say, so he just sat down. He immediately started talking about how he’s a volunteer fireman and how he works at a local amusement park and can get us cheap tickets. It was TOTALLY awkward. I mean, there we are, talking about our weddings and jobs and cars, and he’s ….. 17.
Plus, we were drinking. No one was drunk, but there was alcohol present.
After a few awkward minutes, he went back over to his house to check on his dog or something, and we took the opportunity to put out the fire and go back in the house to set up a poker game.
When my fiance went back outside to make sure the fire was out, this kid (we’ll call him Josh) pops out of the darkness and says, “Hey, where’d you guys go?”
so my fiance tells him we went inside to play poker.
AND THE KID GOES: “Can I come in???”
So my fiance drew the line and just said no.
Things were quiet for a month or so (unless you count the random few times I’ve seen him creepily hanging out in the alley while I walk the dog), but then it happened again last night.
We’re sitting around the fire, and around 11pm, he creeps up from the alley in between the garages and says, “Hey, guys, mind if I come hang out?”
We all just stare at each other as he sits down.
He doesn’t seem to notice that we all get totally silent and awkward while he sits there and talks about high school crap and his part time job.
A few minutes later, 2 of our friends had to leave, so I walked them to the front of the house.
When I came back, Josh is standing at our picnic table EATING OUR FOOD!!!!
I stopped dead in my tracks and said out loud, “really???”
He looked up at me like a deer in head lights and I was just so offended and weirded out that I went back in the house to try and calm down.
Eventually I came back outside and started packing up chairs and putting the fire out with the help of my fiance and our remaining friends.
The entire time, he sat there like nothing was happening.
Finally, I said, “I’m sorry to be rude, but it’s time to pack it up for the night. And I don’t think it’s appropriate for a teenager to be hanging out with 30-year old adults.”
So he got up and hung his head and said, “okay.”
I am TOTALLY creeped out. For some reason, this really worries me.
I feel a TINY bit bad for him, because he’s obviously socially awkward and doesn’t have any friends.
But I am SO irritated as well. Where are his parents?? Why aren’t they aware that their teenage son is inviting himself to strangers’ yards and homes at 11/12pm?
And who does these things? Wasn’t he taught any manners? You don’t just waltz into a strangers’ yard and eat their food without asking.
Again, I feel totally creeped out. Like he’s going to morph into some nut case and start stalking us or something.
And my fiance works nights so i’m home alone a lot, which isn’t very reassuring.
I really want to go to that house and talk to his parents and tell them to keep an eye on their kid and tell him to stop bothering us.
I don’t know. Am I over reacting??
What would you do?
What should I do?