Post # 1
Well I am not sure but I get the feeling from an email that I got today that my photographer would rather not do our wedding anymore. But I understand why….
She has 2 twins that are 3 and in May she is due with 2 twin girls. She sent an email saying that she is getting really nervous about everything. And will be needing 20 to 30min breaks every few hours to pump and will have to find someone to watch her boys and someone to help her photograph. She says she can still do my wedding but would like my timeline as we haven’t discussed it or she can send me back my deposit if I want. What would you do? I almost feel like she would rather not do it and would feel bad if I told her I still wanted her to. But, I also feel like I would feel bad if I told her to send me back the deposit and not do it. ???? Please help….I need to know if I should start looking for a new person.
Post # 3
I’ve never had kids, but two sets of twins…WOW! I would honestly tell her you understand and request your deposit back…and even though her breaks would be very necessary, would you want to miss out on an important shot because she was on a much needed break?
Post # 4
How far out in advance did you book her? I would see what other photographers are available first – do some research. Can you find someone comparable and in your price range? If yes, then book someone else. It’s going to be less stressful on you and on the female photographer. At least she let you know now that she will need these breaks and assistance. And I UNDERSTAND she is a working mother and all (which is great and she deserves mad props), but this is someone’s wedding photography that she was hired to do – it’s a professionalism things.
Post # 5
Thanks guys….I think you are right. I wouldn’t want to miss out on a good shot. She was really really affordable but had also only shot a couple weddings even though she has taken tons and tons of family and baby pics, and engagement pics. She was going to give me full rights which was a huge plus. My wedding is a Friday so I might not have a hard time finding someone??? Could this be a blessing in disguise? I was a little nervous about using her only bc she was a beginner at weddings? I still feel bad saying, ya give me my deposit…..
Post # 6
I get the impression she is looking for a way out but wants you to initiate it, so she doesn’t look unprofessional cancelling a booking.
I would want to know a few things before I outright cancelled:
-is she bringing a second shooter to get the pics that are needed when she is on a break? Has she worked with this person before? Does she recommend their work?
-does she have a recommendation of another photographer who IS AVAILABLE on your date as many may already be booked?
– I would ignore the issue of childcare for her kids. Like any other working woman, this is her concern, not yours.
-I would send her my timeline to see what her feedback is.