- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
Hey ladies! I need some advice. I have a close friend coming to me about her wedding. She is planning on getting married in March and is having some family troubles with both sides. Her parents are not supportive of the wedding. They think she is too young (22) and isn’t stable in her career yet (she graduated in May and has her BSN and been working since July) and her husband quit college (had air force scholarship and due to lack of funding they pulled it and he couldn’t afford it) so he is a construction worker and has been working for a yearish. She even asked her sister to be the maid of honor and her sister said no because she doesn’t like that her fiance stood up for her when she sister was being rude to her. On his side his parents are supportive but his brother who is his best man, just freaked out on him saying he is running of with “some girl” (they have been dating for like 4 years) and is pathetic (this is kind of out of the blue and happend yesterday). They are tight on money because they are currently paying rent for 2 apartments and saving for a wedding.
This is where I need advice for her. They sent out save-the-dates already and are considering a very small wedding with just a few people to save money and have only supportive people there. What would you do in this situation? They are pretty traditional people. They just do not want it to be awkward because everyone will wonder why her sister and sister in law are not in the bridal party and now possible not the grooms brother and her dad doesnt approve so it almost doesnt make sense for him to give her away. They would also move the wedding up and save money by not paying for 2 apartments (they pay for insurance and everything else thamselves already). Would you have the traditional wedding and let it be awkward or would you go for the small wedding?
If you choose the small wedding, what would you say to the people who got save-the-dates that you are not inviting?
Thanks in advance!