Post # 1
So, I’ve never been to an engagement party before but I’m attending one on Saturday. I know it’s standard to bring gifts judging from what other Bees have said in the past on other threads but what sort of gifts does one bring?
They are not registered anywhere yet and I don’t want to give them something they will just have to return. On the other hand, a gift certificate seems too impersonal.
What would you recommend? Also, how much does one usually spend on an engagement present? Is it similar to what you would spend on a shower gift?
Thanks Bees for clearing this up for me!
Post # 3
A bottle of wine is always safe.
Honestly, for my engagement party, most people didn’t bring anything. (granted, we were a particularlay close group of friends.) Bring a card definitely. Box of chocolates? Recipe book? Some sort of nice serving thing like a unique candy dish/bowl/serving platter? Something little.
Post # 4
@CMSnails: Hrm if the party wasn’t so close I would say some personalized stationary with their names. We got that as an engagement gift and I’m using it alot!
Otherwise I think wine, or maybe toasting flutes? Or maybe an engraved photo frame?
Post # 5
Hmm I have given a GC to a salon could be used for waxing, nails, haircut.
Ummm I have given a GC to Amazon.
I try to give a gift that will help defray wedding costs. If I know things they are accumulating for the wedding I will buy that otherwise I give GC or money.
Post # 6
I don’t think gifts are a necessity. However, I rarely go to any sort of party empty handed and have done a nice picture frame or a bottle of wine.
Post # 7
I suggest wine as well if you do want to bring something. No one really brought anything to mine nor did I expect any. I did get some money from FI’s family though. It was nice.
Post # 8
Not sure if they’re wine drinkers, but another bee just posted a cute and simple DIY project for encrusted wine glasses. You could design some of these with their weddingdate or colors, etc, if they know those already.
If you’re friends with the bride, I know my favorite early gift was this awesome jumbo wedding planning binder. I don’t use it for storing all the info and such in it, but just having a great guide with questions to ask vendors, etc, was SO helpful.
Post # 9
I agree that bringing a beverage is nice. I didn’t get any presents at my engagement party and wasn’t expecting any.
Post # 11
I agree w/ all the other bees about not needing to give a gift.. but wine is a nice gesture. I also like the idea of giving a nice picture frame as well. Oh and you shouldn’t think gift cards are impersonal because it would be helpful to help w/ the bride and groom’s cost if they are paying for the wedding themselves.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for the ideas! I’m relieved to know that whatever gift I bring does not have to be extravagant. I love the idea of bringing a wedding magazine and some chocolates. Everyone needs chocolates and one of my favorite parts of the early planning process was buying wedding magazines!
Post # 13
I went to an engagement party this past weekend and I brought a gift of wine and The Chicken Soup for the Brides Soul. (Also a pair of funny undies that said “I like to Do It” only the I DO was much larger than the rest. Although, that wasn’t part of the official gift, it was one of my best friends and gave it to her on the side without family around and she loved them!) I was the only one who brought something and it was really appreciated.
Post # 14
We hadn’t registered for our engagement party and I was 100% surprised when we got gifts. Our close friends brought a few things… we received a cookbook, a board game, some wedding planning stuff (notebook, accordian file, thank you notes), a bottle of wine, and a ring plate. Honestly, the thing we’ve enjoyed the most is the board game.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone! I ended up buying a few wedding mags and a wedding planning book and included the receipt in case they wanted to exchange them.
Post # 16
I also wan’t expecting anything (my parents hosted, it was 1000 miles from where I live). Every single person brought something. My mom had requested that we register prior to the part so we did receive some china from close family before the party. We got a lot of money from my parents friends, gift cards, and physical gifts. We got toasting flutes, picture frames, a bar set, other servingware. I was surprised by everyones genorosity, especially my (younger) friends and family, I would say the average gift was probably $75-100, which I thought was crazy. One of my favorites was a GC to Mortons that a few friends went in on together. I was still packing stuff up from the party to bring back to Florida over Christmas when I was at my parents in NY. Not expecting gifts I did not even consider the logistics of getting these things home.