Post # 1
I’ve been rather calm about everything else but this and picking a venue have been the two things making my stomach turn and my head hurt. We are having our wedding in November and we expect 15-20 people to show up since everyone we are inviting is 6 hour plane rides away and as you know it’s not cheap to travel. So our reception location is very limited. We aren’t fortunate enough to know anyone here in CA that has a home we can have a reception at and after doing a lot of research it’s just too much of a hassle to throw a reception at a location like a park or museum. I’ll give you two situations and hopefully you can give me your suggestions.
Situation 1: We have it at a very upscale restauarant in La Jolla, CA. This private room is so classy and it has floor to ceiling windows that overlook the Pacific Ocean. However it’s not big enough (judging by the pictures and the way the woman there described the room to me) for a DJ and dancing. Now I’m far from doing the “typical” or “traditional” wedding things but there are two very important reception events I want to take place: first dance and cake cutting. The cake cutting can be done but the first dance can’t obviously. Has anyone not had it? What do you think we should do? Do you regret not having the first dance?
Situation 2: We end up having the wedding in a hotel ballroom that overlooks gardens. There is a small dance floor and enough room for a DJ. However there are only 20 people max present and I think a DJ would be kind of awkward because majority of the people are older family members and probably wouldn’t dance most of the time anyway and it would be a waste of $600-700. Just for us to have our “first dance” idk if it’d be worth all that. What could we do with this situation without people raising eyebrows and being like “Um this is cheap/weird/unusual.” ? Has anyone had a dj for a party this small?
Heeelp me make a decision since we are hoping to pick a place this weekend!! Thank you so so so much!
Post # 3
Can you have an IPOD reception?
Post # 4
I could but I don’t think I’d really want to. I feel weird about it ya know?
Post # 5
DO you have a friend that can DJ for you? Unless you are getting a steal on the Dj..I think it’d be a waste of money.
Post # 6
My thoughts – both locations sound like they would have the ability to have some sort of piped in music. A restaurant will have a sound system – esp for the private room and the ballroom would as well. I think you skip the DJ in both situations and buy an iPod nano – a new one specifically for the wedding and load it with your favorite songs as well as a first dance song. You create separate play lists – First Dance Playlist has your one song. Background music for cocktails has 30 minutes of song (depending how long cocktail hour is) and so on….
If the first dance is that important to you (and it would be to me!!) you should do it using the ipod and the venue’s speaker system. Your photographer AND family members will want photos of the first dance. You should be able to work with the wait captain or banquet manager to run your ipod, and even cue up your first dance. If not ask a close friend to cue up that one playlist.
Don’t chose your venue based on whether or not a certain vendor will work in the space -choose the venue based on what environment you love for your wedding and then fit the elements into it – it is your day!
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think that having the reception at restaurant wouldn’t necessarily mean you can’t do a first dance! Either you could ask about using their sound system for the music, or like others have suggested use an ipod! You can clear enough room for at least you two to dance!
Post # 8
Do you have any colleges near you? You could contact the music dept. and see if there are some aspiring artists willing to play on the cheap. That may eliminate the bulk of all the DJ equipment. Check craigslist too if the musician route sounds like something feasable for you.