(Closed) Help!!!! What's going on???

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Have you had a serious talk with him about getting married? It doesn’t really seem fair that you two aren’t on the same page with a marriage timeline. I sounds like he put the ball in your court by asking when you’ll get married. Now’s the chance to tell him what YOU want!

Post # 5
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78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think you need to sit him down and have a heart to heart. Be HONEST and tell him that he keeps randomly having marriage convos with you but you are not 100% about your plan. Ask him what is the plan so you all can be on the same accord. Communication is key in any relationship, no matter what stage you are at.

Post # 6
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Personally, I wouldn’t give a sh$t about him being scared. If this is something that you want, why in the world wouldn’t you just approach him and get an answer? The fact that he hasn’t and has been putting things before you and it, is pretty telling. Man up, and get it done, girl!

Post # 9
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It sounds like maybe he wants to make sure you get the wedding that you dream of, without worrying about spending the money on a 6 hour party when there are more responsible expenses like a mortgage to spend that money on? It’s a responsible POV, albeit a bummer :(. Sounds like he definitely wants to marry you, and doesn’t want you to think otherwise and is comfortable having these discussions without any real timeline other than “after the mortgage is paid off”. Just tell him that if you’re not going to be planning a wedding right now, then you don’t want to have these discussions because they are misleading. Or, just agree to have a smaller wedding that he’s comfortable with having simultaneously with paying off the mortgage!

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