Post # 1
Hi Bees, my partner and I are designing my engagement ring based off one I saw online.
I have size 4, and short fingers and I really have no preference for the size so far. I think 1 carat is timeless, classic, and stunning. 1.5 carats as big bling (in a fantastic way), and 2 carats as “MMM, MMM SPARKLES!”
I compromised with my partner on color (I was comfortable going to G-H, he was all for D-E-F.) So carat is all up to me. Which leads to my question:
When do you think getting a sizable diamond is just plain showing off? I don’t want to be boxed in by people because of a super sparkly, sizable diamond on my finger. all.the.time. I am not a huge jewelry person besides earrings and the occasional statement necklace, so I really want my engagement ring to be perfect.
Additionally, I feel I’m hesitating on bigger because I grew up lower-middle class and I don’t want to make my family uncomfortable. They are always tight on money.
So bees: Any input, experience, comments welcome!
sorry fur such a first world problem thread 😉
Post # 3
When you care if it’s bigger than other people’s and hoping for attention or waiting for people to notice it, it’s showing off!
Post # 4
@crystalrae: took the words outta my mouth…
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
I would have no desire for a 2ct. I have so many other things I would want to spend that extra money on. I am prefectly happy with my 1.25 and it is gorgeous 😀
I would say closing in on 2ct starts to look a little attention grabby
Post # 6
I don’t think a 2 carat is showoing off. I suppose it depends on where you live, but in larger cities it almost feels like everyone has something that size on their finger. When I think show off, I think celebrity big like 15 carats plus. Go with what you like! Diamonds “shrink” at least in our minds after a while anyways 🙂
Post # 7
Just know you don’t have to wear your ring all the time. If you are worried about making your fam uncomfortable just don’t wear it or only wear your wedding band when you get it.
I don’t think there is a too big size. Buy/ wear what you like. Buying for other people seems really, really odd.
Post # 8
I don’t think getting a bigger diamond is ever “showing off”, unless the wearer intends to literally shove it in people’s faces and gloat. An engagement ring is a symbol of love, not a status symbol. If he chose a larger diamond, that’s what he chose.
Your ring sounds like it’s going to be gorgeous, OP!
Post # 9
@Pixienickie: I have just over 2 carats and I disagree. It doesn’t look attention grabby at all to me or those around me.
OP – I think it all depends on what YOU (not others, and definitely not random strangers on a message board) and your fiance are comfortable with.
Post # 11
In my opinion, it shouldn’t really matter what anyone thinks. You should pick your ring and not worry about the comments of others. It is very sweet of you to consider your family, when I announced my engagement I could see the look of disappointment on my older single siblings faces. “My baby sister is getting married before me”. my sister ended up being really supportive and is normally my biggest enemy. Your family will not judge you or think anything of you based off of your ring. They are your family and I am sure they will be happy for you. Enjoy it! Good luck x
Post # 12
There’s a pretty big price difference between a 1 ct and a 2 ct diamond. Just buy the one that you like the most and is in your budget.
Post # 13
Picture wearing each size will all of your normal outfits, doing all of your normal activities. Pick the size that feels most comfortable.
Post # 14
@HisQueenToBee: No matter what size diamond (or car, or house, or… anything) you get in life, a few people you meet will see it and think “How can she live with so little?” and a few will see it and think “What a spoiled snob to spend so much on that” and the overwhelming majority won’t even notice it because they are too busy worrying about how other people perceive their diamond (or car, or house, or whatever).
So get the kind of things that you can afford, that fit your lifestyle, and that make you happy, don’t flash or boast about them to others, and then… don’t worry about it. =)
Post # 15
The Ring board Bees offer great input 🙂 I tend to overanalyze.
Post # 16
@Bubblesmcgee: These are wise words indeed!