Post # 1
FI is from France, I’m from the US. All of my guests are local (an hour away from venue at most) and all of his guests will be coming from France.
Our wedding is in April 2014, for reference.
We just sent out stds for the French guests, because they need ample time to save up and plan. So they’re receiving stds about 15 months before wedding. These are my questions:
1. When should we send save the dates to the local guests?
2. When do you send invitations to local guests?
3. When should we send invitations to the French guests? We were thinking of sending them the invitations sooner an the local invitations, along with a sooner RSVP date. That way, once we see how many French guests can’t come, we will have time to still invite additional local guests without them feeling like the “b list.” if we do this, how far in advance should we ask them to RSVP?
i don’t want anyone to feel rushed, get invitations too soon, or too late, etc. I have no idea when to do any of this!
Post # 3
@SadMrsToBe: Typically save the dates are sent out 6 months to one year before the wedding date. If you already sent save the dates to France I would just pop your domestic save the states in the mail this April.
As far as the wedding invitations go, I would mail them out 4 months before to both the folks who are domestic and abroad. Since you are sending out save the dates the folks in France will have ample time to make travel arrangements. Also, 4 months in advance gives everyone a lot of time to RSVP. The truth is that your RSVP date will be the same no matter when you mail out the invites right? You will be able to invite folks on the B list sooner than you think because most folks who decline will do so right away.
Post # 4
I understand not wanting to send the Save the Dates and the invitations too soon or too late!
I suggest sending the Save the Dates to your local guests roughly 4 to 6 months prior to the big day.
As for the invitations, for local guests, a month and a half prior. For your French guests, send the invitations two and a half months prior.
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Post # 5
I disagree with sending STDs only 4 months in advance. I would do more of a 6-9 month timeframe for local guests.
Post # 6
STDs usually go out a year to nine months before the wedding. Invites usually go out six to eight weeks before the wedding. However, for your international guests, I would porbably give me about three or four weeks more just in case.