Post # 1
Please help a somewhat clueless bride when it comes to seating.
Who sits at the head table??
We are having a sweetheart table, so for the head table would it just be our bridesmaids and groomsmen?
Bridesmaids, groomsmen, plus their dates?
Bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents??
Bridesmaids, groomsmen, flowergirl, etc – the whole shibang?
Please help! Thanks so much!!!
Post # 3
You should include their dates (if you want them to love you). But I’ve never seen parents or children at the head table
Post # 4
If you are doing a sweetheart table, I would put dates at the head table in addition to the wedding party.
We are doing a normal head table with us and our bridesmaids/groomsmen. We will not have their dates up there. BUT – any dates that will be with them (probably only 2 people, the rest have their spouse in the wedding party or no date) know other people at the wedding and will be seated at tables with them.
I don’t anticipate we’ll spend that much time at the head table – just for dinner and formalities, then everyone can go hang wherever they want.
Post # 6
Our parents will be at the head table, it’s a place of honour, right? Our siblings are all in the wedding party plus the best man and maid of honour who I think should have their dates with them. They aren’t normally but I also think it’s wierd to sit couples at seperate tables.
Post # 7
If you are having a sweatheart table, dont have a head table. Just have your parents and bridal party at the first couple of tables, with their dates.
Post # 8
If you are doing a sweetheart table then i would seat the bridal party with their dates, otherwise if you were just having the typical headtable instead of sweetheart it would be the bride and groom and their bridal party no dates.
Post # 9
We had a sweetheart table as well, so we just sat the wedding party with our guests, so they would be with people they know and are familiar with.
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Post # 11
Thanks for all the feedback!
Post # 12
I agree. If you are doing a sweetheart table, there shouldn’t be a head table too. We had a sweetheart table, family tables (brides family, another table for grooms family) and then tables for our friends– my bridesmaids were at a table with my other close friends. Husband’s groomsmen were at a table with their group of friends.
Post # 13
From and Etiquette perspective, traditionally the Head Table (long table one sided) was strictly for the Bride & Groom and their Bridal Party.
Parents on both sides – Officiant (& their Partner) – Honoured Guests… Grand Parents, God Parents, Siblings, and the Plus Ones for the Bridal Party sat at subsquent tables near to the Head Table (Officiant & Partner, usually sitting with the HOST of the Wedding if it was the Bride’s Parents, or Groom’s Parents… or all at one table together if do-able).
IF you are electing to do a Sweet Heart Table for the Bride & Groom, then a Head Table is no longer a MUST DO.
You can put the Bridal Party and their Plus Ones at a table that is less formal as well.
And Flower Girls and Ring Bearers typically sit at the same table as their Parents… again usually in an honoured position in the room (so not the back at the last the table)
Hope this helps,
Post # 14
As other PP’s have said, generally a head table includes the bride, groom, and their bridal party only. But if you are doing a sweetheart table then I would just reserve a table for your bridal party and their dates. Then I would also reserve tables for your parents/family so that they are close to you as well.
Post # 15
@Bostongrl25: This is what we are doing. It just makes things less complicated.
Post # 16
It was just the bridal party at ours (us with bridesmaids and groomsmen). Our parents were at a table together with grandparents & our priest they sat at the table directly in front of me and DH. And the other tables up the front had the partners from the bridal party along with our MC, and other people with jobs.