Post # 1
We have about 400 people we want to invite and our venue has a maximum of 300, hoping for a little less. We have about 320 that we will be inviting for sure and 80 more prioritized on the B list. The B list is groups (Dad’s employees, church friends, college friends, etc) so it’s unlikely anyone would find out they’re on the B list, but if they do, oh well. I’m printing the invites myself so I’m trying to decide if I should make separate RSVP dates and when to send them so that I can send more out. FI wants to send invites now but I know it’s way too early. Would sending the A list invites is mid-March with an RSVP date of late April be okay, or is that too early? Then we would send some B list invites early April with an RSVP date of early May. Has anyone done this? I know it’s sometimes looked down upon but it’s whats working best for us. Any advice on how to make it run smoothly? Thanks!
Post # 3
@MrsN14: It’s not really ‘proper’ but I’m doing it too. I’m being extra bad though and I’ve sent invites to my 3 classmates that are 100% invited and then I will send invites to others later if we get enough declines.
We’re using the same RSVP date for them all. April 17 for our May 17 wedding. Invites went in the mail last night – 3 months out. I’m banking on getting back several right away, I’m hoping the declines that I’m anticipating will reply quickly.
I think the absolute latest you can send someone an invite is 6 weeks out, so you should have your initial RSVP date 7 weeks before the wedding so you can send invites in time for people to get them 6 weeks in advance and have your second RSVP deadline 2 weeks before the wedding.
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: thanks! I hope our declines come in quick too so we can get the second round out 6-8 weeks in advance! I know we won’t be able to invite everyone on the B list but the sooner we know the better!