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Usually the rule of thumb around here is...if you are requiring it, then you should foot the bill.
prncessdva is right. it is too much to ask a bridesmaid to get her hair or makeup professionally done after all they are already doing. if you are insisting she get it done, you should cover the expense. p.s. the others might not be voicing their dissent simply because they don't want to rock the boat, but they may feel this same way too.
I'm with PrncssDva. You're already asking for them to pay for a lot, too, and professional makeup is pretty expensive. Have you considered having a Mary Kay consultant come and do it? They usually charge way less, and it could be a good compromise.
if you ask them to get their makeup done, you need to pay for it. if you don't want to pay for it, give them the option of using your makeup artist, but don't tell them it's required.
Same vote for me. And I couldn't support it more. I am one who feels pretty confident in being able to do my own makeup. So if a bride really wants my makeup done, I would be unhappy to say the least, if she expected me to pay for it.
sigh. i really want my BMs to get hair and makeup done, but don't think i can afford it so i cant ask them to. i plan to send them the prices and ask them to let me know if they want me to make appts for them.
The last wedding I was in it was suggested we get our makeup done - but not required. I dont wear a lot of makeup and have sensitive skin so I really didnt want to do the professional makeup. The bride understood and didnt pressure everyone to use it. I just bumped up my regular makeup and I dont think there was much of a difference between my makeup that day and the others. (and also in my opinion, i wasnt a big fan of what they had done so i was really happy i didnt pay $100 bucks for something that I would have washed off at the end of the night)
If they want to do it, they can. If you require it, you have to pay for it. Even if a make up artist does it, it doesn't guarantee that you'll like how the BM make up looks. btw, Sephora offers wedding day make up now, too. I think it only requires a $50 purchase.
I am giving a day of pampering (including hair and makeup) to my bridesmaid for her gift (I only have one bridesmaid)... What girl doesn't like to feel like a movie star! Maybe you could make it her gift???
I know it sucks because she is the only one who has an issue about it. But maybe her financial situation has changed and she can't do it, or does not want to. If you are making them use a professional, then you should really pay for it. But if it's just a suggestion and either way works, then they have their choice to pay or not pay. Since she will be the only one left out, you should probably pay for her. There is no great way to solve this, especially if she can't afford to do it.
I agree with everyone else. if its a big deal to you then you have to pay for it. I don't think bridesmaids should be forced to pay for their professional makeup.
She does not have to pay for it at all if she doesn't want to. If you want her to because it's important for you, then you pay for it and I'm sure she'll be fine.
I know I've already commented, but I think Ms. Meowerson made a great point. If I was in your wedding party, and you required me to have my makeup done, I would be pretty pissed. I would probably complain about it to the other BMs and my friends, but I wouldn't mention it to you because I'm non-confrontational. It's entirely possible that the other girls have been complaining, and the BM that spoke up was drafted to be the 'bad bridesmaid' and talk to you about it.
Do you trust them to do it on their own? I have found that professional makeup can look very unnatural, especially on girls who rarely wear any at all-- I want pictures of my girls the way they actually look!
If you're worried, see if the makeup artist will give a group discount (I mean really she's making 50+ a bridesmaid for less than an hours work) and then consider paying for it yourself, or telling the girls you're willing to negotiate prices for them.
I had 6 BMs and 1 chose to opt out of getting her hair & makeup done. In my opinion, it wasn't noticeable which one she was. Whenever I've been a BM, I always choose to get my hair and makeup done for the experience, not necessarily because I think it looks way better.
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Having BM's issues.
How does everyone feel about having your bridesmaid have professional make up? This is at their expense.
Out of my 6 girls, only one girl feels that I am being unreasonable because I am asking them to get their make up done. She is also the one that has been the most distant and apathetic about mywhole wedding. Not to mention, when she had her own, she asked everyone to dig into their pockets more than more most brides have...
Has anyone had this issue? I really feel that professional make up looks best, especially in photographs. How do I relay this without looking like a bridezilla (which I'm honestly NOT!)