Post # 1
I gave almost everyone a plus 1. When addressing envelopes do I just put their name and when they go RSVP they will see that they have a plus 1 or do I include it on the envelope? Also, couples that are not married do I put the person who is closest to me on the envelope and then their significant other on the RSVP or do I put both names on the envelope.
I’m just sitting here addressing my Save-The-Date Cards and this is confusing as hell!
Forgot to mention that I am doing RSVP online so there will not be an insert card with the invitations.
One last thing. The RSVP section on my website, for the people that are single that I am allowing to bring someone with them, do I put “Plus 1” or “Guest” for them to check off.
Thanks you guys are the best!
Post # 3
I wrote the person who was closest to me first and if they are married or in a serious relationship then I put the second name, if they are not in a serious relationship I addressed it as Miss ___ & Guest
I think Guest sounds better then Plus 1 so I would put it as guest on the RSVP site as well
Post # 4
I totally agree with Future Mrs K. That’s exactly what I’d do
Post # 5
I think this is how “etiquette” goes…
For unmarried couples, the envelope should look as below, ladies first, separate lines (and implies marriage so leave it off):
Miss Jane Smith
Mr Tom Harris
Don’t know the proper etiquette but I’d say: if you know the name of the plus one I would include it on the envelope. If not just write inside. I agree with PP about using “& Guest” instead of “Plus One”
Post # 6
I did this…
Mr. John Smith & Guest
I thought it looked kinda weird on the outside envelope, but since we didn’t have inner envelopes, I just did it that way.
Post # 7
For unmarried couples where I know both of them I put both of their names on the envelopes. I either put the name of the person I am closest to first or used the ladies first rule if I’m equally close to both.
For unmarried couples where I only know one of them I put the name of the person I know on the envelope and then either both names on the invitation (or + partner).
Post # 8
I just had this exact conversation with my Maid/Matron of Honor and her boyfriend this weekend! I was told that because they dont live together, I’m expected to send separate invitations to them since I would like them both to be there.
If only I could just invite my Maid/Matron of Honor and have her leave the Boyfriend or Best Friend at home….
Post # 9
If the couple is living at the same address then you send one invitation addressed to both people. It is traditional to put the man’s name first, followed by the lady’s name.
Mr. John Doe & Ms. Jane Smith
If the couple does not live together, NVACat is correct, you are expected to send an invitation to each guest’s home. The only exception is when you do not know the significant other (your good friend’s “and Guest”). Etiquette still says that you should address the invitation for the the guest by name, however you may rely on your friend/relative to deliver the invitation – that way the person you don’t know won’t get the invitation and think “who is this for!??!” – your friend can say “my dear friend is getting married, would you care to be my date for the evening?”
The upside to naming your guests’ “Plus Ones” is that you will be able to prevent a cousin from bringing a fling of the week, or anybody else that you really just don’t want at your wedding.